Would you call the police on your husband?

Question

I have been seperated from my husband for 4 months now. While we were living together I knew that he used cocaine on the weekends when we went out. I know it was not alot. I did not approve of it but he still did it. Now that we are seperated he uses it even more, where his eyes are almost popping out and he is making gestures with his mouth. I actually feel sorry for him. He also sells it. He does not see my children on the weekends , he prefers to go out and get high with his friends. He does not give me child support either. He is currentlly on probation. The thought of calling the cops or his po officer have came to my mind. I want to do that so that he can stop doing what hes doing... What should I do?

Answer 1

He's a drug dealer and an addict. Plan and simple. Would you ever trust your children around this man in his condition? Start dialing.

Answer 2

Let it go. He does not see the children. He has made his decision.

You have problems of your own. Like filing for child support whether he pays it or not. It is cumulative from the day you file.

Time to let go. Look around, the sun came up, your kids are healthy, and you love them dearly. You have to work, clean the house, and get homework and dishes done. Focus on what you have to acomplish in a day and let him become a faint memory.

If you make the call you cause irrepairable damage. And you may bring his wrath down on your home. Leave it alone, move on.

Answer 3

well if your husband is not the father of these children he does not owe you any support.second if he is the father of your kids why arent you concerned about his health and abscence in his childrens life?it was ok for him to do cocaine when he was with you cause it was just a little?what kind of mom are you any amount of cocaine is too much you were both going back home while he was doing drugs how much were you doing?if you wanted him to stop you should have helped him stop while you were together.you are mad cause hes with someone else? or he dont want you anymore? what you should do is grow up get a job and support your own kids your own self.good luck.you are not his mom!

Answer 4

Shortly after my ex and I broke up, I moved to a new place. We still communicated and would see each other ocassionally. One friday evening she came by to only find me benging on cocaine. She came by the next day to check up on me and I was still benging. She told me I would not like what happens next. Later that night the police arrived and I still had some coke on the table as well as some weed. I was arrested not for drugs because there was hardly anything left. Instead I was arrested for reckless endangerment. I think I would have just kept doin coke until I died and if not for the intervention of my ex, I probably would have. What I am telling you is that you may save a life as well and put your ex on a different path. It all worked well for me, drug rehab and counseling.

Answer 5

I know how you feel & exactly what your going through. I don't know that I would turn him in, but maybe seek help for him, because no addict, no matter if they use a little or alot, if they use daily, their an addict, wants to go to treatment or seek help. Do you know the 3 C's? You did not cause it, you can't control it, & you can't cure it. No matter what he says it's not your fault, nor is it his. I know your probably going to think I'm crazy for saying that but addiction is physical & mental, he starts it but gets to the point where he can't control it or the urge for it. My advice, find some Al-Anon meetings & go to them. That is for family support, it's things you can do to help you, not him. The worst place for an addict or user, if that's what you prefer to call him, is jail or the streets. He could withdrawl from the drug & actually get sick enough to die, so would you rather help him or hurt him?

Answer 6

Call the police because it takes some bad times for some people to realize that they need help. Do it for your kids so that maybe later on they can have a dad that will be there for them!

Answer 7

Calling the police isn't going to make him stop. If his probation officer finds out, then he's going back to jail, which will just make him mad at you. He's not going to stop unless he wants to. He obviously isn't ready to. The best you can do is sit down with him and let him know you're concerned about his drug abuse. It's ultimately up to him on what he wants to do.

Answer 8

as an ex wife then you have to rights to protect your kids and ask for what is due to you and your kids. As a citizen you know he is doing something that is illegal so you do have the right also the report him to the authorities. Lastly, as a human being you have all the right to stop somebody from doing things that could harm themselves (healthwise), so I said my piece so hopefully you will do the right thing.

Answer 9

call the police and probation officer. I was in this situatin, and I called he got locked up, and hated me but then he went to treatment, and realized I did it for his own good, and things couldn't be better now. Good Luck

Answer 10

I think you should attend a Narcotics Anonymous meeting. They are great for advice when dealing with an addict. You can't force someone to get help if they don't think they have a problem.

Answer 11

You're not his wife anymore, so let him dig his own hole. Unfortunately, there are kids involved but they need to know that Daddy is sick and has a problem and when he gets better they can see him. Until then, it sounds like he's doing a good enough job digging his own hole. Coming from an ex-addict, we are good at self destruction...