I have been married for almost 8 years. We always have some type of problem. I got hurt at work and can't work right now. The doctor said it might be a year before I can go back. I made good money, but right now I'm getting workers comp. My husband told me last night if I couldn't help pay the bills and other expenses I might as well leave. Is this love? I love this man and thought he did me also. We are buying our own home and I have always paid the majority of the bills, now what? I am at a lost of what could cause a man who said I love you do this to me. Please advise
2007-04-02 10:08:29 · 11 answers · asked by cejay1953 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It has always been about money with him. I pay bills and he spends on his toys.
2007-04-02 10:14:16 · update #1
Yes, I do make more.
2007-04-02 10:14:55 · update #2
No that's not love but a sign of insecurity. When you get married its until death do you part. I would think of a marriage as somewhat of a job and that two people should be prepared to handle the pitfalls that come with it. I think that you should just hang in there and things should work out over time but what matters most is that you are still together. If its all about money then find someone with more money and see how he feels about that.
2007-04-02 11:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by KPNITRIL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accidents happen and Im sure you didnt exactly plan this. You did however cut him off from his play toys unintentionally. Whatever happened to the wedding vows of "in health and sickness...." here?. If hes willing to get rid of you so easily then this is not real true love but almost sounds like hes using you as his finance banker and now that his funds are put on hold,the truth is coming out and it aint good. You will get paid thru workers comp, maybe not as much but you can still help pay the bills til youre back on your feet. If your husband is really serious here, then Id think seriousily about your relationship and exactly what you mean to him. Now if the shoe was on his feet hed be screaming alot. Your husband is a fair weather hubby which is not good. I wish you a speedy recovery and good luck with your husband
2007-04-02 18:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh that's gonna leave a mark. Men can be very selfish and maybe those words were said in the heat of the moment without him thinking. I'm guessing he is probably just over whelmed with the whole money situation. Try to sit down with him & figure out a way to get through this stressful time. If he keeps making comments like that than I would start thinking about getting out of the marriage.
2007-04-02 17:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by Reckless 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was married to a person for 16 years that all he was concerned with money, and it just came down to money it wasnt about love, family, or home, and I became so stressed and tired of the same old arguments, and the selfishness that he had I divorced him, marriage is not about money, its how you both handle life together, and if one is down the other is suppose to be there with love and encouragement, and telling the other dont worry we will get through this, and before you even get a house now I would really sit down and talk to him about how this made you feel and how hurt you are and go from there....
2007-04-02 18:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry! Love is about being there for one another and now when you need it most your man isn't there for you. Love is about trust and now you know you can't trust him to help you during hard times. Would he expect you to help him if he was in the same position? He may have been a mistake and your Mr. Right is still out there.
2007-04-02 17:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by coffeegirl019 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not love. If he really loved you he would be supportive and understanding to your situation and maybe take a second job to make up the difference. That's what you do in a marriage...support each other and fill in where one is lacking, not smack them down when you get a chance.
2007-04-02 17:12:18 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's grown used to the fact that you are the bread winner and has become complacent. Now that he has to be the man he is frustrated because he feels that he can't do anything right. Just assure him that you love him and everything is going to be ok.
2007-04-02 17:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by Noree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't in love with you. He is in love that you pay for everything and now that you aren't there is no need to keep yuou around. Get yourself a good man
2007-04-02 17:13:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could just be that times are tight and he just said that. Ask him about what he said and see if he still means it. Most likely he was stressed about money and just said it. It doesnt excuse it but at least it will let you know where he stands
2007-04-02 17:13:01 · answer #9 · answered by D R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shoul understand how it must be for you,not make you sound like a failiure!!
Talk to him again and tell him you are doing all you can in your condition.
Failing that let him know how bad you feel by showing him the question you typed on here.........amd maybe a few replies.
GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-04-02 17:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋