Lately when my boyfriend and I go out we get asked how long we've been married, when we're getting married and etc. We are not married or even engaged. We don't wear rings on our left hands or anything. Why do people assume we are married? We don't discuss marriage or argue in front of anyone. I'm afraid my boyfriend is going to start putting pressure on himself and end up leaving me. Help!
2007-04-02 09:46:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't worry about what other people are thinking! It is obvious you two are close, and that is what other people are seeing, and that is what makes them ask that question.
Just you and your boyfriend live your life and enjoy being the cute couple that you sound like you are.
If this bothers you, then talk to your boyfriend about what you are feeling, it sounds like you two are very close and have a very wonderful, beautiful relationship, and if you are honest with him and talk to him about your feelings, then you should have no problem in getting your question answered.
He sounds like a very understanding guy!
Communication is a vital part of ANY relationship!
Try it, it works!
2007-04-02 09:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you some-what know someone who asked you or made a comment about that ask them why they assumed it and how you could make it more clear to the public that you are not marries or engaged. Also try asking a close family member because they may have noticed things too that they think is a trait of a married couple but just have not brought it up in front of you.
hope everything goes well!
2007-04-02 16:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by Annemarie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are probably asking because you guys seem like you work so well together that they assume that you are married. If you think he's starting to get scared about the big M, sit down and talk with him and let him know that its not something you are expecting right now and its ok for you guys to wait until the time is right.
2007-04-02 16:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by Chiquita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess people are just going off of the aura you two put off. If you are in love and show a tender emotion towards eachother and people probably just guess. There is no reason to be all upset, I used to get asked about my "daughter" who is really my baby sister really baby like by 17 years. I didnt take offense to it. It's more like a compliment. I dont think your boyfriend will feel any pressure unless you start in on it too. Like hey maybe we should, and if he's feeling pressure then he isnt ready, frankly maybe your not ready if it bothers you that much?
2007-04-02 17:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably come off as a very close married couple. People might not even know if you're married, but it's a good ice breaker regardless, so don't take it personally. Tell him the same thing. If he leaves you because of this you don't want him then anyway. Good luck
2007-04-02 16:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people ask, just tell them you have been married for five years and he has been married for seven. Let them figure it out, it is not really anything to worry about and the both of you will get a good laugh out of it...
2007-04-02 17:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the big deal...when people ask you those questions, just say "we're not married". It's the truth!
2007-04-02 16:51:49 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this could mean one of two things. (1) you two just have been together so long that you've began to look like a perfect couple (it happens!) or (2) you all give off that bland bored couple look which isn't good!
2007-04-02 16:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by beautiqueen128 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people ask just let them know that you aren't. You shouldn't stress or let your man stress because other people have a problem. He shouldn't leave you over it either.
2007-04-02 16:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a good thing. just chill out. your boyfriend will only run away if YOU pressure him. just laugh when people say things like this to you.
2007-04-02 16:50:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋