yesterday my son (15) was cleaning out his fathers car and he came accross a dirty magazine and some of the?

Question

pages had been "abused" my son called me to tell me what he had found i was really mad that my husband would have a magazine like that and not only have it but use it! should i have just ignored it or was i right to kick him out?

he was back an hour later but i was still mad and grossed out :(

Answer 1

Tell him that stuff hurts your feelings. If he doesn't respect that, then you would have the right to kick him out.

Answer 2

You shouldn't been mad at him for having the magazine.But you should have been mad at him for leaving it were your kid could find it.You son is old enough that he knows what the book is all about.But it is still not the kind of information you want to learn about you parents.So the poor thing is going to be really uncomfortable around his Dad for a while.But you know he might not have had that in his car.If he didn't know that taking it into the house would have set you off.I hope you didn't argue with your hubby in front of your son.He will feel bad about getting his dad in trouble.And you don't want him to feel bad do you.Do you know that by acting the way you did towards his father over a silly magazine.You might end up making it so your son doesn't come to you if he has a problem.Especially if he has a question about sex.Because you have shown him you have no patience for things you don't agree with.You need to be more open and open minded.It is not like you found a woman's underwear in the car.You need to grow up and realize that men pleasure themselves and so do most woman.And anyone who denies it is a liar.There is nothing wrong with it.And you need to be more realistic and less judgmental.

Answer 3

Please, you and I both know you werent wrong. If it upset you that much then you were right to show him how you feel. I found a dirty magazine in my boyfriend's car a few months back and the goof tried to convince me that he buys them for the articles. Just tell him why it upsets you and, beyond the anger, how it really makes you feel. Ask him how he would like it if he found out you were pleasuring yourself while looking at a magazine spread of some young hot stallion. I'm supporting your actions 100%. It baffles me when this sort of thing doesnt bother women. I dont know what sort of thing youre into but perhaps if the both of you decided that it you wanted to spice things up, maybe then you could watch a porn together if thats what this is about. At least that way it would be fair on both parts. Whatever it is you decide to do, I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 4

do not think less of me for my answer but men no matter who they are master----- at some point in their lives. Some men and boys need visual stimuli to accomplish this task. other do not. your husband irresponsible action of leaving his stimuli laying around for his son to find was just that irresponsible. is it grounds to kick him out. no i don't think so a stern talking to accompanied with an apology to you and your son would seem appropriate. divorce for an action generally speaking all men/boys do is a little harsh. maybe he felt the safest place to keep such things were in his car and if so it should have been locked and non accessable to a young child. this is something you and your husband and maybe a good therapist can place in a perspective that is agreable to both. when subjecting a child to pornography I cannot think of any thing good can come of it. it usually portrays a male degrading a female in some form or another. this is not the concept most parents want to instill in their children. this is something that needs to be discussed not seperated over.
good luck and explain to your son not all men need visual stimuli that degrades females so there is hope that he will not return to his fathers ways when he gets older. I myself struggled with pornography till I was late in my teens. I found a trash bag full of pornography that was thrown over a bridge onto the creek bed I like to visit. anyone who says porn is not addictive is a lier.

Answer 5

What kind of hateful, controlling hag kicks her husband out of the house for this?!? It sounds to me like he's the one who should have done the kicking-out -- are you trying to control his every thought, or just his orgasms? If I were he, I wouldn't put up with such a blatantly anti-sex despot such as yourself. And if your 15 year old "child" (up until 100 years ago, 15 yo was an adult in every culture on Earth) was that shaken up by it, then you have ruined your boy as well as your marriage. Do the world a favor and offer your husband a divorce so he can find a sane woman who doesn't feel like it's her right to control his every bodily function. Then get thee to a nunnery and languish in sexual solitude for the rest of your life.

Answer 6

I don't think you should have gotten so upset with your husband about having the magazines. He's a man and it's normal for men to look at things like that. You should talk with him. If he is not satisfied with you sexually and turns to the magazines for pleasure, then that may be a problem, but if you two have a healthy sex life, I wouldn't worry about it.
What I would be more upset about is the fact that your husband left them in the car for your son to find them. Your son is old enough to know about sex but not old enough to be exposed to pictures like that. Finding them in his father's car (especially in the condition they were in) may trouble him more than you know. Make sure you have a separate discussion with your son, or, better yet, have your husband talk with him. If he hasn't done so yet, now would be the perfect time for the "sex talk".

Answer 7

...Some of the pages had been abused? I'd report it GreenPeace. It's bad enough that tree had to be cut down, but then to be mutilated into pages (can you imagine how much that hurt?) is simply torture... and then to be abused AFTER being turned into paper, well I don't even think George Bush would sanction THAT! (Unless a suspected terrorist had once peed on the tree trunk and it was suspected that it had been a ruse to exchange a few words.)

Oh - and maybe if you didn't withhold your favors the poor man wouldn't be forced to abuse trees. I'm reporting YOU to GreenPeace.

Oh - and i'm reporting your son as a potential NAZl, what kind of son turns in his old man for having a playboy? If i was his dad I'd hook up a camera in his room and circulate the video of the kid boppin' around his school campus. Harsh? How else can kids learn?

Answer 8

I think this is normal for a guy. If you are really bothered by it, figure out why it bothers you so much and talk to him about it. Don't automatically kick him out just because of a magazine, all guys go through it and some never grow out of it.

Answer 9

there is nothing wrong with a good magazine to relieve stress but your 15 year old should have kept it for himself he should be doing that 4 or 5 times a day

Answer 10

alot of men have a thing for porno. my husband does and it don't bother me because as long as he is just looking or getting off at pictures and not cheating it's normal, so unless he's cheating i wouldn't have taken it so personal. maybe you should try looking at porno yourself. just because he buys those magazines like most men doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. give him a chance, to me that's not a reason for separation or a divorce, and tell your husband that from now on not to leave the mags in the car because your son shouldn't be finding them. he should put it somewhere else that's safer

Answer 11

He should keep it where your son can't get it. Other than that, its just normal behavior and you shouldn't take it personally. It's something he does for himself, and it doesn't have anything to do with you. It's not cheating or anything like that. If he didn't have something like this he could do when you're not around etc, then the alternatives would be much worse. It's normal and you should try to learn to accept it.