im 14. and trust me its not for sexual reasons. ive had my period for 2 years and ive been having trouble with it. i have a 28 day cycle ( i.e. im on me period for 2 weeks and off it for 2 weeks).
my cramps are so bad sometimes i have to miss school
i am VERY emotional, i could just be standing there doing nothing and burst out in tears for no reason. or get really angry and start yelling at the closest person to me.
i get morning sickness
acne runs in my family, but i think its mostly the hormons.
my PMS symptoms are so bad sometimes, and they're starting to effect my personal life with the emotional stuff.
another thing about my period is it justs last for so long and my PMS symptoms start about 3-days to a week before my period, so i am PMSing 3 weeks out of the month.
i dont know how to tell my mom i want to be on the pill, she's strict and doesnt really trust me ( im not a bad kid)
and believe me i dont want to be on the pill for sexual reasons, im not ready
2007-04-02 08:39:50 · 25 answers · asked by rollin with the homies 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I think its great that you realize you are not ready for sex at your tender age. If you think your mom might flip if your on the pill and you feel like you cant talk to her you can go to a "planned parenthood clinic" in your area and they can get you on the pill. Most of the time at no cost to you. If at all possible I would highly reccommend talking with your mom though and explain to her how your feeling so that she can help you through this rough time.
2007-04-02 08:46:48 · answer #1 · answered by BRIT C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom you want to see a doctor about your issues, and have her sit in the exam room with you when you go. im sure your doctor would mention birth control as an option. that way, you don't have to be the one to break the ice. it sounds a lot less alarming when your doctor suggests birth control than when your 14 year old child says "mommy, i'd like to be on the pill." making that announcement will freak her out and shut her down and it won't matter what you say after that...you could talk about your period cramps until you're blue in the face, she won't hear it. let the doctor do the dirty work, and, since you're on the rag so often, you might want to also see a gynecologist so she can do some investigating and make sure everything is working the way it's supposed to, and that you're not in any danger, now or in the future.
2007-04-02 16:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by shoes_are_love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. My cramps were bad as well. I would just be honest with her and tell her that you would like to be put on the pill to help with PMS. But not all birth controls help with periods. Some just increase it while on it. I was lucky enough to not have my period for 7 years. Granted I didn't have to have the pads and whatnot, i still had the cramps, just not as bad as what they were. Now that I'm off of it, the cramps are giving me a headache yet again. All I can truely say is be honest with your mother, Strict or not. She will understand.
2007-04-02 16:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by qtairforcebrat22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be put on the pill, you will have to see a doctor and have a physical exam done. The doctor will have to check out your uterus and ovaries by doing a pelvic exam, which involves you being in stirrups and naked from the waist below. If you are serious about getting your hormones under control, you will have to experience this invasion of privacy. Talk to your mother about it, but don't use the phrase "birth control". Tell her you want to do something about your periods which are lasting way too long. I know a couple of girls that had to have some sort of hormone regulation because it was effecting their quality of life. You might want to do some research on this before you approach your mother.
2007-04-02 16:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her your symptoms. I am sure she will understand. You might not want to tell her that you want to be on the birth control pill, because if she doesn't trust you, she might assume you are making excuses to get the pill. Tell her your symptoms, and ask her if you can go to the doctor. The doctor knows best, and if the birth control pill is right for you, and will help you best, he will suggest it, and you won't have to. But the pill might not be right for you. Maybe there is something else that will help you out! Talk to your Mom, and your doctor. I hope you feel better!
2007-04-02 18:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by goldengirl33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been on Birth control since I was 11. Its easy to get. Just go to planned parenthood. I had the exact same thing as you... very severe PMS and it can be sooo hard. I feel for you. Its legal to get your own and you don't need consent. That being said it always feels good to be honest and if you can talk to your mom about it first maybe she would be supportive... If not then go get the pills yourself. Its always good to have a support person, But if not, its your period and you shouldn't have to have all these symptoms and pain.
2007-04-02 16:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by jennifer m 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure that is you explained the reasons you want to be on the pill to your mother then she would agree with you, and if you feel like she won't listen to you then try writing a letter( that always works when you don't feel comfortable talking about something) and just because you are on the pill doesn't mean you're sexually active, a lot of girls take the pill just for menstrual reasons so you shouldn't feel like you're an outkast because you're taking it.
2007-04-02 16:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by lil_lady_t301 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
search in your phone book or on the net for your nearest family planning clinic they can help you and they cant tell your parents if you dont want them too. They also work around your payment methods, they go by your income and what you can give them and since you are 14 I'm sure they will help you for free. They might also set you up for a gyno exam and I would kinda recommend that since you have all those symptoms.
2007-04-02 15:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by hotmoma_37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mom about going to the doctor for the problems you are having. If the doctor is the one to suggest putting you on the pill then she may be more accepting than if you ask. I had a friend who went on the pill at 15 for the same reasons. Her dad was a doctor and he suggested it. Good luck.
2007-04-02 15:59:40 · answer #9 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell you mom your symptoms because you are not suppose to have your period longer than 10 days. Then you may want to make a doctor appointment and see what they say. They will not per scribe the pill to someone who is under 18 without parental consent.
2007-04-02 15:50:39 · answer #10 · answered by iknow 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋