i came from nigeria in 2004, and this is april 2007 with no friends . i thought coming to college would give me a chance to get friends but it is still not working. Can anyone be kind enough to tell me how to get friends.
2007-04-02 08:30:51 · 17 answers · asked by emeka c 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Have you tried going to places that others go?? Join a sports league or church... Volunteer at an agency...
2007-04-02 08:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by Its me!!! :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I went to college I didn't meet a lot of friends really.
I met one friend though. We still talk (10 years later). She is from Japan. We met at a dorm meeting, it taught us how to give massages. We always laughed and hoped it would help us find a man. ;o)
Just try to get involved in clubs or go to any meetings where people go just to hang out. When you are talking to someone and like the conversation, ask them if they wanna go to a movie or have coffee or something.
I worked 40 hours a week and took my classes as "for business only." I didn't try to meet a lot of people because I was busy.
If you aren't too busy, take the time to make mall talk with people. Maybe put things on your folders (music, movies, animals, interests...) that may start up a conversation with someone who like them, too. Good luck!!
2007-04-02 08:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by natsuko1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go somewhere where you can get around people. Just get to know people. But there is one very important thing you have to remember: If you want friends, you have to be a friend. Be nice and then they will come. But that statement how to get friends is sometimes easy to answer and sometimes it isn't because it only depends on what kind of person you are. So, I hope you have to best luck with this. Find me up and e-mail me when you have some luck.
2007-04-02 08:38:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's hard to make friends, especially if you are really shy. If you want to make friends with other people, try to go to places that interest you, or if you see someone you want to talk to, just go up to them and say hello. Join some college classes, volunteer at a local organization, go to the movies or the mall. If you get out there more, and engage yourself in more activities, then I'm sure you'll make more friends.
2007-04-02 08:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard, specially being from a different culture. I would start by joining groups. Exercise classes, sports, dance. Maybe even volunteer some where. What about on line dating? I'm married, but I hear that you have tons of dates a week. Even if it's just for friendship, this may be something you may be interested in for friendships.
2007-04-02 08:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by luv2help 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
socialize introduce yourself to people that you feel have similar interests. go to events or places where you know there are people from you classes even hey don't we have English lit together can be the starting point for a friendship. try to be a nice a posssible just a smile can make people want to be around you...i know its hard to interject youself into a new social relem but bring up stories from your life that seem to follow the plot line of others conversations...it might be hard a first to get noticed but i garentee that if you keep being personable and outgoing everyone will want to hear from you
2007-04-02 08:38:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what i do is i would see who you would want to be friends with see what theyre like and then when they need help give them help and if that doesnt work i would be out going and not quite and shy and if you are quiet and shy and cant get anymore out going find someone else that is quiet and shy and just go up to them and start talking like hi how are you they would probablyrespond if they are bad ask them why and then try to help them out but if they are good just ask what is your name unless you already know what their name is but if you dont and ask and theyt answer i would say my name and then you would probably start a conversation. Good luck i hope i helped.
2007-04-02 08:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by Daughters of King called Jesus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you joined any clubs at college? Try volunteering in your spare time. You'll meet nice people who have the same interests. Good luck!
2007-04-02 08:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by stony1111 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is quite easy. In class or in the park try meeting people by asking them any question and then open a conversation with them. the most important thing is that you must try not to be shy and to be open and lively
2007-04-02 08:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by rozeh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say hi to people just be friendly, and introduce yourself
your from nigeria?
I bet u are really pretty so use that good smile that god gave ya and make some nu friends
2007-04-02 08:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋