is He cheating?????? i m crying?

Question

my husband comes home late 1 or 2 hour late. i found i comb and some choclates a lipstic from his car. i asked him about all this he got mad on me.. he doesnt want to tell anything..he said if i keep asking all thisthen he will start dating someone..what does it mean its so hurting . i m crying what does it mean...

Answer 1

I'm not sure if he's cheating .

But that is not the way to talk to you .

Ask him for an explanation , and it's time to do something about it .

Don't delay.

Answer 2

I think if you went out to check his car that you have been suspicious for a while and have been looking for signs that he is straying outside the marriage. Finding a comb and lipstick that doesn't belong to you in his car would cause you to believe that he is involved with another woman and then when you confronted him he wouldn't talk to you about it.

He told you if you keep accusing him of cheating then he will. I don't know if you accuse or question him repeatedly about his faithfulness or lack thereof, but that is kinda what it sounds like.

If he told you the comb and lipstick belonged to a friend would you believe him? Haven't you already decided that he is guilty? Perhaps he isn't talking because he realizes it wouldn't matter what he said, you've already made up your mind.

I don't know the whole situation but think about some of these things - do you accuse him any time he's late or does something different? If not and this is a first time incident then I don't think you need any answers, it is right in front of you. By blaming you (keep asking - I'm dating) then he has justified his actions and now it's all your fault. (It isn't, but that is what he is doing because he feels guilty and therefore must justify what he did in his own mind.)

Good luck.

Answer 3

I would try talking to him again, try to have a calm conversation and ask whats going on. If he starts to get aggressive and angry, he must be hiding something. ;O Your both married to eachother so the only thing you can do is talk it out. Dont be afraid to ask him what are the extra hours are for.

Secondly how could he just strike a conversation saying that he will start to date someone else if you keep asking. Remember nobody likes repetitivness, its very bad and could get annoying. He probably said that because you got into his nerves, or he just couldnt handle the little arguements anymore.

If nothing works out and he wants to move on (date someone else) then respect his decisions, and think about yourself. Would you want to live your marriage life like this, thinkin your husband cheating all the time. No... one wants to feel like this, so if your hurting, why would you let him hurt you. Everyone makes mistakes in their lives, maybe this marriage is'nt working out for you.

*the question also need more details to give an accurate answere*

Answer 4

Maybe he is and maybe he isn't but I am sorry to say that my guess would be he is. If he wasn't then he would not get so mad at you when you question him unless you were one who accused him just to be accusing him or because you are just the jealous type. Now finding the evidence in his car...then yes you should confront him. Can not read his mind but there is a possibility that when he says he will start dating someone if you kept asking him if he is cheating may be an excuse to blame you for his cheating if he really is and actually gets found out. You know, well you drove me to it or I figured I might as well cheat since you always accused me of it, etc.. That way he will feel that he did not do you wrong.

Answer 5

hes cheating, he got caught and instead of begging for you to forgive him, he feels the need to turn it around on you and make it your fault. There is no reason to put up with that, i know you're upset and hurt, but when you see him again, tell him look, i know what you are doing, are you going to keep denying it? If so then we have a long road ahead of us...tell him that you don't apprecaite him making this your fault, and if you ask him a question you expect an answer not a comment that he will begin doing what he has already started, you caught him and now hes angry. Be strong and firm, let him know that are in control of the situation and he screwed up, its time for him to accept that, if he doesn't ever confess, then hire a private investigator, so you know for sure. It isn't something to wonder about, you need to know. So talk to him, if he doesn't respond, then tell him, it doesn't have to be messy, it just has to be resolved, and tell him to grow up, and face it he got caught. Tell him, you're not sad you're angry. That will get him for sure. And i suggest counseling, my friends husband cheated on her and she didn't do counseling, and it is very helpful when dealing with something this difficult. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Are the red flags going off yet? They should be.

Your husband is a selfish, immature person who is only interested in himself. He neither loves nor respects you, if he did he would never treat you this way.

He doesn't want to talk because he's guilty, he's just looking for an excuse to justify his actions.

Don't you dare let him put you on the defensive. Don't let him make you feel like you've done anything wrong - this ones all on him!

I'm sorry for your troubles, but you need to stop crying and stand up for yourself. If he isn't interested in working on your marriage, show him the door.

Everyone deserves to be treated with love and respect, don't settle for less than you deserve. Best of luck to you.

Answer 7

If he's threatening to do something "because you keep asking," that probably means he's already doing it, and looking for an "excuse."

Personally, I would start looking at my options. You need to find someone you can confide in (a counsellor or minister) and figure out what your next step should be.

If you don't mind living with a bully and a cheat, then stay where you are - otherwise, start planning your new life without him.

Answer 8

U're crying cause he means alot to u. Try to ignore these and think straight. He have the rights to have friends, even female 1s. If he is out to cheat u think u can stop him from doing so? U can stop this moment but not forever. Ask him if he loves u and talk to him in a calm manner. Ask if those stuff belongs to friends. Try to communicate with him, dun push him... men hate to be pushed!

Answer 9

First don't cry because when you cry you can't think straight. If I were you I would put him in his place and tell him to **** OFF. If he says he's gonna go date someone else be like go right ahead and u do the same. File for a divorce because obvously this is not what u deserve in life.

Answer 10

hes cheating for sure... how can he even threaten you by saying " he will start dating someone else " - just for that alone - that should tell you something it wrong... he has no right to say that. If i were you i would stop crying ... grow some courage ... and stand up to him! tell him you want to know the truth NOW - because you deserve it!


and if he is indeed cheating - then you dont need him!

Answer 11

Would he be so angry if he had nothing to hide? He's angry because he got CAUGHT! And by telling you that he'll start dating someone else, he's told you that he doesn't love you and doesn't respect you. If he did care about you, he'd try to reassure you of his love for you, wouldn't he?

If you aren't willing to let him go without first trying to make things better, tell him that you want him to go to a marriage counselor with you. After all, the problem could be with you and not him, right? If he is unwilling to go to counseling with you, it means he doesn't care enough about your marriage to try to save it.