i have been though so much in the past year more the a 16 year old should have ever have to be through. i have lost my best friend in a car crash my grand mother died my step mother died i had an abortion with twin boys i lost the two guys i love so much and one is stll my friend but its not the same. i have to worry about myfriends driving drunk i have school to worry about collage and high school. my heart is hurtting and i dont know what to do to put back together.i want to start to date again but sems i cant let go of the ones who crushed me before what do i do?
2007-04-02 08:22:30 · 7 answers · asked by Amada 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hugs to you dear sweet young one.....life has really handed you some lemons. Is dating a priority right now for you? Perhaps, pursuing something that brings you joy and pleasure will allow time for your heart to heal and also boost you self-esteem in the process.......
Sign up at your rec center for a pottery class, an acting class, swimming, line dancing....whatever trips your tigger. Get out there and experience some things before leaping back into the dating scene.......who knows who you might meet along the way!
2007-04-02 08:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by Tippy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You've been through A LOT!! You're needing a lot of emotional support and input right now. It sounds like many of your "love channels" were closed or removed. You may want to seriously consider getting involved with a support group whether it's a "growth group" or grief group or whatever - just some people who are caring and loving and can help you put the peices of your heart back together.
Look to cultivate some non-romantic relationships while you're on the mend. You've had enough up & downs and it sounds like you need a break from that. All romantic relationships have a lot of up and downs and heart-ache so if you're already hurting, they may not be best at this time.
But you need people! It's like Dr. Henry Cloud says, "God put tearducts in your eyes because you're supposed to be seen when you're grieving!"
You CAN'T turn this around alone!!!! God made relationships to be the avenues of health and healing! Isolation only leads to insanity!
Here's a website that might help. They have a lot of good books but may also have some contact info. for councelors or groups in your area.
http://www.drcloud.com/
God Bless You! And hang in there! There is hope!
2007-04-02 15:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been through a lot. But, only you, and you alone can turn this around. You are dwelling so much on what has gone wrong in your life, that you are attracting more bad things to come in your life. You need to sit down and be grateful for what you have now, and focus on those things. Things that make you happy. Start writing down what you want in your life (i.e., I want to succeed in school, I want to be accepted into a good college, I want to happily date, etc.) Focus on these things every day and do whatever you need to do to stay focused and happy. Sing your favorite song, think of something anything that makes you laugh, watch comedy. The more you focus on happy things, more happy things will come to you.
I have been through a lot as a young person as well. I'm older now and that's why I can tell you that this method works. Stay happy and think of happy things and your thoughts will become things... always remember those words... your thoughts will become things! Trust me. I wish you the best!
2007-04-02 15:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by luv2help 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel about deaths, i recently lost my grandmother. And having these dreams that my uncle will die because of him trying to take over the Mayor seat in one of our provinces here in the Philippines. And sometimes when i get emotional i think about my best friend who always guards my life using his own dying. I can't get it out of my head and it drives me crazy and i cry like hell. I've lost a lot of people in my life, almost like what you've been. But i keep on hanging on because i think about what will happen to my friends if i wasn't here. I don't hang on for the good of me, i hang on for the good of the people who are close to me. The pain you feel is there to remind you that you're alive. And the confusion and fear is there to remind you that somewhere out, there is something better. And that something is worth fighting for.
So get up on your feet and make the best of your life.
2007-04-02 15:32:39 · answer #4 · answered by heavydeezy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're only 16 and you've already had an abortion? Girl, stop worrying about guys and concentrate on educating yourself!!!!! You are headed for a life of misery if you keep it up.
2007-04-02 15:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by stony1111 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget everything go do something else yeah what she said go to the rec center and do something there get your mind of of it
2007-04-02 15:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by boogyht911 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
forget about dating.. just have fun
2007-04-02 15:26:17 · answer #7 · answered by mary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋