ok so hears the deal. My good friend has two lil boys from a previous boyfriend and now she is married to a soldier and just had her third child. ok hes overseas fighting the war and shes here with the kids but while she recently met up with this other guy but while she was still pregnant she was having sex with this guy, he even rode in ambulance with her when she went into labor. and she continues to talk to him, her husband got leave to come home and see the baby and then he went back. now that he went back she went right back to that dude, and her husband has no idea. is this not wrong? cuz none of the other girls think its wrong but i do.
2007-04-02 07:17:50 · 17 answers · asked by *Gelli* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Obviously it's a messy situation, BUT:
- If you confront her on this the guilt she probably feels could make her too embarrassed to continue to be your friend, or maybe she'll get angry and tell you to mind your own business.
- If you tell him you'll likely destroy your friendship with her and possibly your other friends as well.
- If you do nothing you'll probably feel a lot of negativity towards her and destroy your friendship anyways.
I've seen people who think they are "doing the right thing" by getting involved and never having the foresight to realise the fallout from their actions.
Think long and hard about what you want to do, and consider the consequences of your actions.
If you are very close to her maybe one day when you're both alone together you can just ask her where her relationship(s) are heading and that you're concerned. If you aren't that close - well maybe nothing is the smartest thing to do.
2007-04-02 07:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very wrong indeed! Obviously this girl needs someone with her at all times and can't bear to be alone. She probably won't admit this, but would enjoy the drama that would surely ensue if her husband found her out. With all the things you hear on the news about people killing rival lovers, etc., she is playing russian roullette and when there are kids in the picture, it is too dangerous. She probably has self esteem issues that need resolving and only a good amount of counseling can help that. If you feel strongly about what she is doing is wrong, you can do your part by letting her know how you feel and not enabling her behavior by covering up for her, EVER, or babysitting so that she can be with this other guy. Good luck!
2007-04-02 07:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by Lise-Anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so wrong. She needs to tell him. If it were the other way around she would whant to know. I would. There is now way that she loves him. If she did she would not be doing this to him. Does he have any clue that she is with another man? Are good friends with him. If so you need to tell him. The other person has a right to know. If no one tells him now, he will find out some day and is going to be mad at her and everone that new about it. His has the right to be happy.
2007-04-02 07:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by tksell2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How very sad that others do not see the wrong in this. Has society and morality slipped so far? What an unbelievably horrible woman. Apparetnly she thinks only of herself - and the guy? Wow, very messed up situation.
2007-04-02 07:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is called adultery. While he's serving our country, she's serving some other dude. Not only is it horrible, it is selfish and sad. She may be lonely but that is no way to deal with the loneliness. She could hang out with the other wives instead of him.
2007-04-02 07:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's wrong! They're MARRIED. Whether he is at home or not. Dont get wrapped up in what other gals think. Of COURSE it is wrong to cheat - that's a no brainer! Don't second guess your values because your friends are too dim-whitted to know that cheating is wrong. You should seriously confront this friend of yours.
2007-04-02 07:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell yea its more than wrong. Not only is she being a liar and a cheat but her husband is out there risking his life to put food on the table for her and her children and she is repaying him by whoring around. There are really bad names for women like her.
2007-04-02 07:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by Belinda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do and I would report her as@ to the military. She should not be intilted to any of his military benifits. This is WRONG!! This man is out fighting for what is right....RIGHT and what dose he get??? an unfaitful lying wife?? This is so wrong REPORT her!! let his staff sarget know let the commander know let someone know.
My feeling go out to this man, her husband. I pray that they all come home safely, but most of all come home to the "love" that they left behind to fight for us all...
What is this woman thinking????
2007-04-02 07:38:07 · answer #8 · answered by ohdarnitsmeagain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of people are u hanging with that DONT think this is wrong...this is VERY wrong..!! she should be ashamed of herself..and her husband deserves to know whats goin on..
i dont know what the best thing to do is. this is a tough one..
i would say that SOMEONE needs to let her know..that ..she needs to stop this behavior and do the right thing...if shes not going to...SOMEONE else should!
2007-04-02 07:49:56 · answer #9 · answered by lisa baby... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is one of the most AWFUL things I have EVER heard! She is TOTALLY WRONG in what she is doing!!! There is no excuse for it - it doesn't matter if she is lonely! SHE IS MARRIED! It is just plain awful.
And, I don't know who these "other girls" are that don't think it's wrong, but they obviously have NO morals whatsoever.
2007-04-02 08:16:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋