i'm in my 20's i would love to get married but i don't want any kids (too much headache, imo). everyone tell me that most men want kids and won't marry a woman who don't want any. what do u think....is it ok to look for men that don't want kids, where are they?? what u think of woman who doesn't want kids....
2007-04-02 06:58:17 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
* u think i will find a guy like this or not?
2007-04-02 07:03:11 · update #1
Of course it's okay to want to be married, but not have children. There are lots of reasons to not want children and you are not wrong for not wanting to have children. Having said that, make sure - VERY sure - that you and your prospective spouse see eye to eye on this.
I was on the fence on the subject going into my marriage, and as circumstances changed I became more and more certain that children would not be a good thing. My wife on the other hand loves kids and this has proven to be a tremendous strain on our marriage.
Whatever you do, don't lie and say you'll consider having kids, or you like kids and you'll see how it goes or anything other than exactly how you feel. Believe me, it will only cause problems down the road.
2007-04-02 07:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having kids or not having kids is everyone's personal decison. There's no law saying all married couples must have children. I've seen couples who shouldn't have children & I'm sure you have too. I know a lot of married couples who wish to remain childless & I don't think any less of them because of it. I'm sure there are many men out there who prefer not to have a family & you'll find one, I'm sure. Let it be known right from the start when you meet someone & that you do not want to have children, before the relationship gets very far.
2007-04-02 14:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means find a man that does not want children. My husband is 10 year younger than I (he was 31 when got married) He had no kids and we never had any. I have lots of friends that are married and choose not to have children.... Believe me there are tons of men who don't want kids. I think more women want kids than men.
As to finding them just be honest and open with the men you date. If it gets to the point in the relationship, let him know your views. I tell you they are out there. Good Luck finding Mr. Right
2007-04-02 14:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by Pearlinpc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with not wanting children. I personally have a teenager, and my life has been so blessed & fullfilled since I had my child. I did have my tubes clamped, because I don't want anymore children. I am presently with someone who has no children & doesn't mind that we won't have any together. It's your choice. There are plenty of guys out there who don't want children. Where to find them...I don't know, the world is very big. Don't fret over it, and don't let people tell you there's something wrong with you or pressure you to try.
Good luck & don't worry about it too much !!
2007-04-02 14:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Callie ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly fine. I'm 42 and have never wanted kids, and never had any.
There are guys out there that don't want kids, or don't care if they have kids or not. Just be up front with anyone you may get serious with re: your view on having children.
There's nothing at all wrong with not caring to procreate...and although the majority of parents will go on and on about how they love parenthood, there are plenty of pluses with regard to skipping that life event also. I've never regretted my decision.
Be true to yourself...you're not alone in how you feel.
Good luck!
2007-04-02 14:04:25 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're ok! Not everyone wants to have children - there are men out there who don't. Do you have any friends that can help you meet men who don't want kids? Our society thinks that everyone has to be just alike - married, 2.5 kids, house, 2 cars, etc. - but we don't all have to be just alike. My cousin and her husband have been married for 30 years and don't have any children - they're very happy. I have married friends who decided to not to have children. If you don't want children, that's ok!
2007-04-02 14:06:23 · answer #6 · answered by Cindy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course!!!! Hopefully you will find a man who wants the same things as you. But definitely stay away from men who already have kids because they will be even worse than having to deal with your own!
2007-04-02 14:01:35 · answer #7 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never had any myself - I chose different paths. I think that it's 2007 and a woman can choose whether or not and when to have children. I also know a lot of guys who feel the same way. Not everyone wants them!!
2007-04-02 14:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly okay not to want children. Some men do want women who want kids, but there are guys out there who don't want them at all. You just have to find the right guy.
2007-04-02 14:01:50 · answer #9 · answered by Lillian M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU GO GIRL! I also feel that way, and im 26. But the man u marry should agree with u. I have talked many guys about it, and most do not care either way. this is a bad world we live in, and its looking like bringing another life into it will help. good luk.
2007-04-02 14:04:46 · answer #10 · answered by jocelynnicolep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋