Is homosexuality more of a choice, or something your born with?

Question

Hello everyone! I have always been bi-curious, where girls interested me, but not enough to act on it. Now, I am a lesbian by choice. I have had many men in my life do horrible things to me, therefore Im not even attracted to them anymore. I have a girlfriend now, and life couldn't be better. We have a wonderful relationship and I think she's the sexiest thing on the planet. I was just curious as to weather or not more people make the choice. I do believe that some people are born with it, but is that a small few and the rest a choice? Im just curious! Much love.....

Answer 1

Being gay has been established to be biological and linked to genetics, so it is something the someone is born with.

An October 2004 scientific research publication stated that scientists at the University of Padua have found that women tend to have more children when they inherit the same genetic factors linked to homosexuality in men. This fertility boost more than compensates for the lack of offspring fathered by gay men, and keeps the “gay” genetic factors in circulation. Mothers of gay men produced an average of 2.7 babies compared with 2.3 born to mothers of straight men. And maternal aunts of gay men had 2.0 babies compared with 1.5 born to the maternal aunts of straight men.

Another study published in Human Genetics in February 2006 examined X chromosome inactivation in mothers of gay sons and mothers whose sons were not gay. Normally, X chromosome inactivation occurs at random: half of the cells in a woman's body will have one X chromosome inactivated, while the other half inactivates the other chromosome. Researchers found that in about a quarter of mothers who had at least two gay sons every single cell in these women inactivated the same X chromosome while only 4 percent of mothers with no gay sons showed this type of extreme skewing.

A Canadian university study published in June of 2006 stated that, although researchers have known for years that a man's likelihood of being gay rises with the number of older biological brothers, that the new study found that the so-called "fraternal birth order effect" persists even if gay men were raised away from their biological families.

A January 2007 Australian report suggested to be gay you need to receive one gay gene from both parents, and that those with only one gay gene have a selective advantage because they are heterosexual but have increased style, male sex drive, charm and seductiveness towards women.

Answer 2

Your question should be "Is sexuality a choice?" In which the answer would still be no. There is actually a fault with the choices given, since people only seem to think that there are 2 answers available. Gay or Straight. It seems that women are more likely to be okay with their bi curious interests, because of socieities current interest. Kinsey introduced a 7 point scale which suggested a continuum of sexuality. The most persuasive evidence also shows that the hypothalamus in the gay male is more like that of a woman than a man. Therefore being something a gay man is born with. However, since there is a lower instance of lesbians, less research has been done. The societal factor of two women together being accepted and two men being together (look in ur magazines, how many man man pics are there) helps to explain why more bisexual men label themselves straight. And why many have negative reactions to gay people (paranoid). So, studies have shown that homosexuality isn't a choice, and neither is other sexuality. You may realize it at a later time, but it's unlikely you chose it.

Answer 3

You know, I normally wouldn't answer this because I have become so bored with having to feel that I need to justify myself, but given the answers I'm seeing I have to say something. Where do heterosexuals get off even having an opinion on this. Heterosexuals are not really allowed to have an opinion on this since they cannot have any clue as to what it is to be gay. I know I was born this way because from the time I was young and could perceive the world around me, I always felt an attraction to men. I would like it, if just once, a heterosexual or a bi-sexual person would just admit they don't have the right to make absolute statements about a subject they can't possibly know about.

Consider this: A friend of mine told me how, when he was visiting a friends house with his son, the boys were in the back playing silly games when suddenly, the boys began to roughhouse a little bit. The mother of the other boy told my friend, a man, that they should stop. He said to her, that's just boys playing, to which she quipped, that's not how boys play......He responded with, How would a woman know?

I trust this little story makes the point, if you missed it, perhaps you need more schooling.

Here endeth the lesson.

Answer 4

I, being a heterosexual male, do not believe you are "born" this way. If being "gay: that is a lesbian and a homosexual", then how is it that if you wish to procreate, you have to have the other to sustain your species of differential partnerships?
You make a life decision as to what your sexual desires shall be. If the modern world wishes to tell us that being this way is so "natural and normal" then how, if this is to be believed, can you procreate with woman on woman/male on male?
It is not an evolutionary progress that has yet to be defined in this area even though someone else answering this question used DNA from a study on the aspects of the possibilities of having the "gay" genes!
I am in no way "condemning" this lifestyle for my work that I have done over the past 12 years, traveling decorative/restorative painter, has made me aware of this lifestyle and when they ask me of my Christian beliefs and how I perceive them, as lesbians and homosexuals, this is how I confront the questions I am asked. I "love" them as good friends, no matter if they are lesbians, homosexuals, bi, bi curious or what have you. I like them for who they are but I tell them their "sexual orientation" is a bit skewed when looked at as a biological format.

Answer 5

So your saying that women don't do horrible things that what i get from this First of all both sex do bad thing so that is not a good reason to change to same sex. But to answer you question. I think it can happen both way but I think you are born with it more then change over because not many women have bad relationship with guys. So I think your wrong on that. But what ever floats your boat!!

Answer 6

I believe that it is something that you're born with. There have been plenty of debates on this matter and i really think that it's something that you have no choice in. Just like a lactose intolerant kid who can't eat ice cream, he didn't choose that, it happened to him. People's sexual orientation isn't immoral in any light regardless if it homosexual, heterosexual or bi-sexual. God made you the way that you are so I'm pretty sure he knows your preferences. As long as you're happy with your choice then you shouldn't worry.

Answer 7

I think its a matter of degrees. People seem to fill the entire spectrum between homosexuality and heterosexuality. You mentioned that you were alwasy "bi-curious", so I believe you were probably born somewhere toward the middle.

Answer 8

i understand your feelings. I'm not sure your a lesbian by choice though. I'm very happy that you in a loving committed relationship, but who knows, maybe you'll find the man of your dreams eventually. just do what makes you happy. as far as most people deciding to be homosexual, I'm not to sure about that. my friends and i have actually discussed this in the past and we think that their may be something hereditary about it.i also have a friend who says she's gay b/ pf the way her mother treated her over the years (verry poorly) she was rapped by a male family friend at averry early age, and her mom told her that she brought it on....either way; best of luck to you.

Answer 9

I think more people are born with it but the rest is more a choice.

Answer 10

For me, I was born that way. The only people who say it's a choice are the "straight" people.

Answer 11

People are born LGBT or straight. This is not a "choice," and does not change over time. Neither sexual orientation is more "right" or "moral" than the other. Science backs us up on this one, including the APA and AMA.

People take different lengths of time to discover their true nature. Many people experiment sexually to help understand their inborn sexuality. Such sexual BEHAVIOR does not in any way change someone's sexual orientation, nor does bad sexual experiences.

Congratulations on finding a wonderful sexual relationship. I hope that you can continue to understand your orientation.