do i have a frekin chance??????????????????????

Question

my husband left me six months ago.we have been together 7 yrs.he said he could not get over the fact that i cheated 1 yr before that i was on drugs then.so he left .still payingall the bolls and seeing the kids every day having sex with me.wel;l nedless to say i had been clean 1 yr sence i had cheated.i caught him at a hotel with a girl we both no.i am 33 he is 40 and she is 28.so when he left i relapsed doind drugs again.so any chance i guess i blew.all these months he has been so distant says he wanted to ghet caught and hurt me ya right busted...went on his cell phone bill witch of corse is always off but whatever he hasent wanted me said it over move on.he has been talking to her sence they got caught 3 months.i got clean again now he is always telling me how pretty i am and in his eays i se he still loves his family.i caled her and told her.he says he does not luv her.we went and tok the kids4 the weekend out of town 4 the first time was great .she calel at 4am .does he even care.

Answer 1

No, he doesn't care, and neither do you. You need to stay off the drugs for your kids. Your kids are all that matters right now, and you two need to sort out your individual garbage without letting them be witness to it.

You need to keep this man out of your bed. It is his responsibility to make sure that the children are cared for, but you should really get a job to start your life over again. You never know when he'll decide to stop paying, and the time it takes in court to sort it out could ruin you. Your children have been exposed to enough from the sounds of it.

Trust me: You don't want him back. He is not good for you. You need to get help for your addiction issues and get your life straightened out so that you can be the mother that those children deserve.

I would also talk to a lawyer (legal aid if you're hard up for cash), and start legal proceedings to end this marriage. The sooner you have on paper what he needs to be providing monthly, the sooner you can put your mind at ease and get on with your life.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Yea the problem is you don't care, namly about yourself. Which makes sense, your trying to put the family frist, the problem is he isn't. So all your showing those kiddos of yours is it best to sell yourself out for your men weather he is good for the family or not. Which isn't the lesson to teach them... love is more important then your guyz relationship. Thats why you need to leave that good for nothing little boy because he doesn't know how to keep a grown-up relationship with you. Or else you could just keep justifing to your kids the reason your so upset is that you don't care about yourself more then your husban.... and feel that you all deserve to have this guy in charge.... I mean honestly did you ever think that you'd be on this internet page feeling great about the relationship because your husban finaly took you and kids out of town? And on top of that long awaited evening his affair called him up at 4pm? Do you think you guys deserve this? I think not or else you wouldn't had ran back to the drugs to help you cope with the way life is treating you.... or better the way your treating your life. The kids need love and stability, they don't need you searching for that, you should already have it, if you can't get it from him... then for there sack tell him bye. Kids get a father just because thats the nature of it, but there going to look for you to give them a good DADDY..... theres a differents. Even a boy can be a father, its takes a man to be a daddy.