How much can you truly love your child if you are willing to disown them for whom they choose to marry?

Question

That is not love at all. That is foolishness. Love is eternal and cannot be broken by the hatred of this world.

Answer 1

Love is unconditional, plain and simple. If you disown someone because they are choosing a life you disagree w/, then you are just a selfish control freak.

Answer 2

I agree with you. True love would not disown a child for something like this. I for one, would not disown my own child, even if my child did the most vile and evil of things. I love my children. I could never, ever disown them. My love for them is unconditional. That's how we ought to love our children. If a parent doesn't approve of a child's choice in a spouse, then there is certainly nothing wrong with voicing the disapproval. That's where it should stop however. As parents, we can do our best to instill the values in our child that we believe will benefit them in their lives. Once they are grown however, we have to trust that they learned what we've taught them and we have to trust them to make wise choices. Whether or not we agree with their choices, it is THEIR life to live and THEIR choice to make. If my child married someone I did not approve of, I would state my concerns to my child, and if my child still married that person, then I would support that marriage and be as accepting of that person as I could be, for the sake of my child. If I strongly disliked the spouse, then I could maintain a distance from him or her, but I would never, ever disown my own child. That's just wrong.

By the way, my father disowned my sister once because she was living with her boyfriend. In order to get in my father's good graces again, she married him. They went on to have 2 children together (now grown). Still, after just a few short years of marriage, they divorced. He was violent and abusive toward my sister and his kids. He is not a nice guy. While I am grateful for my niece and nephew, who would not be alive today if my father had not disowned my sister and she felt compelled to get married, my father's actions caused a lot of hurt. Parents should not disown their children for any reason. Now if a child was doing horrible, hurtful things to the parents, and was behaving hatefully toward them, then okay - keep a distance from your kids - but for Pete's Sake - don't disown them. They are your children. If you are the one being disowned because of your parents' disapproval, then may I suggest that you follow your heart and marry whomever you wish to marry. Your parents made their own choice in life partners and you have that same right to choose for yourself. I might also like to suggest mediation counseling which can help the parents you are referring to gain some understanding of the perspective of the child involved and perhaps come to a mutual understanding in order to avoid hard feelings and alienation. Best wishes to you.

Answer 3

HEY WHERE DID ALL THESE OTHER RESPONDERS GET THE IDEA ITS ABOUT INTERRACIAL MARRIAGES?

Many times race is NOT the issue. Families have standards and if the adult child does not abide by those standards then they have the right to write them out of their wills.

And parents can and do write adult children out of inheritances all the time and the race of the child's spouse is rarely ever the reason....especially now days!

If the adult child marries a person of dubious background and morals, or marries someone with a criminal history, then the parents should protect the family and write out the child who married beneath their class.

And RACE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THIS!

Answer 4

Exactly!! My cousin is a very sweet girl. She was an honor student in HS, was involved in several activities, was pretty , popular, and nice. Never got into any kind of trouble. An all around great person. She got a full ride to college, graduated with a respectable degree and made her own way.

Then she married a guy who is a Native American Cherokee and her (very racist) parents totally disowned her!!! I'm like, WTF!?!?!

Answer 5

God is love. I could never disown my children. I had my Father disown me and before he died I was the one who ended taking care of him. I'm glad I had the privilege of doing so became he came to know me and love me.

Answer 6

That is obvious. If a parent loves their child, they will accept who their child loves. Otherwise, they do not truly love their child, they just love their image of their child.

Love is all that matters.

Answer 7

Ya it isnt love more like lieing to the kid so they feel loved
I know what it means just cuz I wear dark clothing and into not
very well listener either ha well ya i know what u saying here

Answer 8

It works both ways. If they loved themselves and their parents they wouldn't throw away thousands of years of their racial heritage, ignore their upbringing and split the family along racial lines for some interracial one night stand just because the jew media says it's the best thing in the world.

I've never seen an elderly interracial couple because they don't last that long and the offspring of such relationships have lots of social and mental problems. Interracial relationships are unnatural and they should be banned.

Answer 9

Absolutely! Hatred is idiocy! But it is damn hard to get rid of, especially if you were brought up by bigoted parents.

Answer 10

That's what you call conditional love.