Are some women teaching men not to respect them?

Question

Since I've been on yahoo answers, I've noticed a lot of girls/women who use every post as an opportunity to bash on men. (Talking about they are all the same, all want the same thing, simple-minded, opressive, want to own women - and, in some cases, even going so far as to explain how 'woman a' should kick 'man b's' ***) etc. etc. Are these people teaching men not to respect women.

(Please note: this is not a question intended to offend or demean. It is simply a question put forward for the sake of my own intellectual curiousity.)

Answer 1

I'm a woman of 41. I think that younger women and girls are lowering themselves and devaluing themselves to men by their actions. I think they misunderstand the notion of equality as it relates to relationships. Women are showing themselves to be petty, cheap and equal for all the wrong reasons. They want to apparently show men that they can go out and have affairs, drink, swear, cheat, lie, steal, and have illicit sex as much as the men. It cheapens all of the rest of us who believe that to be a woman is to also be a lady and to deserve respect. They (for some reason) feel a need to please men by bowing to their basest fantasies of women by acting cheap and reckless. They don't understand that women are the guardians of moral decency and that men look to women to be moral and deserving of respect.

No, I don't think this is an old concept. I'm a hot-blooded woman too, but only in the confines of a monogamous relationship with a man whom I respect. I don't dress cheaply. I don't swear. I don't go bar-hopping or hang out in a gang with other women. I speak well and comport myself in such a way as to gain respect.

So, my answer to your question is an emphatic yes.

Answer 2

I think the man bashing is just a defence mechanism against the woman bashing from men the men on here to be fair. This isn't a verbal wrestling forum, it's supposed to be about an academic topic..
Anyway, I do think some women teach men to disrespect them by going out in boob tubes and tiny skirts that leave nothing to the imagination.. Slutty women make the rest of us look bad, as they encourage men to objectify us and treat us like ****. I'm not saying all men fall for the stereotyping game, but a lot of them do seem to let nasty women influence their views of us all in general.

Answer 3

I am having a problem with the word teach being used in the context of training.
People not only men are taught the aspects of respect as children.
Hopefully they will take that into adult hood.
If a person shows disrespect
it is something that was learned as a child.
Listening to some females go through male bashing, should not make a man learn disrespect.
Is it wrong? I don't agree with it but I will always respect someone.

Answer 4

When it comes to respect these days, the fastest way to earn disrespect is to act in such a way. The problem is not with women bashing men, and men bashing women, it's a matter of how we, as individuals, take it. In earlier years, it seems men did more of the "Social Abusing" then women, a generation of women have been raised to give the guys flack for all this and that they did. Being able to view people as individuals, and not "Men" or "Women" provides a greater understanding of humanity, and social normalities.

On the teaching idea, Seeing someone say "You should hurt him!" isn't gonna completely change your outlook on females, just that female. (Or, in an ideal petrie dish, thats what would happen) If a large number of them are doing so, it starts to create the change...

It is a matter of the women and men to BOTH work at unity, peace, and understanding. If they don't want to cooperate, it is their reputation, not the reputation of people who should be dimmed.

Answer 5

I don't think that in THIS way we women are teaching men not to respect women. Women who use those views are either small minded, mean spirited, or have had bad run ins with men in the past who have acted like that and belittled them.

In a way some women I guess do "teach men" to treat them badly by allowing it to happen and not stopping it. But that is a very tricky slope, as these women have likely been taught not to fight back, or they can't for fear of their lives.

You DO teach people how to treat you. Sometimes however you have no other tools to defend yourself.

But in the way you described no. I think the attacks on gender go both ways, and that the majority of the time it is just childish, or in reaction to childish statements.

Answer 6

I would say yes to that and at the same time change the word to causing; Though I don't see most of it being done on purpose, see I've been there and I always kept my toe, came close, behind the line. Deep down no women, no matter who she is or what she believes in wants to be disrespected, as well as neither does any man, yet in our foolishness (we shouldn't blame the media as we all are capable of making decisions) we seem to do just that. Then before you know it a new chapter has begun and we say to ourselves "I can't believe I did that."

Answer 7

I would say no, these types of responses are not teaching men not to respect women - although I would say that some actions that some women take do encourage disrespect (feigning extreme physical weakness, allowing men to take protective attitudes toward them, etc.) While the responses of some angry feminists on here may anger men - a rash, insensitive generalization of a member of a 'majority' peoplegroup, while perhaps less biting than a generalization of a member of a 'minority', is no less insulting - my advice to intellectual, introspective men is to take into account that many of these responses stem from rage born from righteous incredulity at the constant discrimination and disrespect that many women suffer at the hands of ignorant men (and women! - some angry people do 'bash' the women as well) ... It's called venting and, while it's totally uncalled for and dissapointing ( and hopefully I'm not personally guilty of it), it's not necessarily meant personally ... Also, take into mind that while there ARE some ignorant pseudo-feminists out there that actually do think in that way, they're not representative of the whole of womanhood/feminists.

Answer 8

I think women in general have dropped the ball somewhere in teaching Men (as a group...definitely not all of them) not to respect Us (again...the group). The media get blamed a lot, and certainly the images we see don't always help, but such images wouldn't be popular if there wasn't a market for them. The influence came from somewhere and as long as women buy into it--as hard as it is not to--we're at least partly, if not mostly, responsible.

Answer 9

I think there are some women here who hate all men simply because they were molested, raped, or abused in some other way. I dont feel those women are qualified to talk about men in general simply because of their bias. Even in court you cant expect to get a fair trial when someone on the jury has a bias. By all means you teach others how to treat you, and when you go around spewing hate and lies, you teach people to not take you seriously, and to believe that you suffer from severe mental problems.

Answer 10

Some people can not express an opinion without lowering themselves down to a level of name calling or removing the very respect that they themselves seek. This goes for both genders... Once the respect is gone the debate is over, it is basically a mud slinging contest... As for teaching men/boys lack of respect for women you can not tell little Johnny or Jane to do as I say and not as I do...