I really like this guy and we get intimate most of the time. we are not in a relationship with each other yet...i just want to know if he has another woman or possibly lives with someone... should i further investigate this or would that be a bad idea
2007-04-02 03:52:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't in your case because he's technically isn't yours....if you'll had a committed relationship then maybe. But you already gave up the goods to a "friend" why are you sensitive to if he's seeing other women? If you were serious about this guy then you'll should have talked more about becoming an item not just sleeping partners....sorry I had to keep this real.
2007-04-02 03:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by Always Camera Ready 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How much time on your hands do you have? If you feel the need to dig that deep into this guys life style you are investing too much energy.
1. Are you smothering this man?
2. Be a little patient be more observant.
3. Don't jump to conclusions.
4. Is this man going to be ridiculed for what another has
done to you?
5. Are you the right girl for him?
You stated that you are not in a relationship with him. I think you want one if you are askig this question. Maybe you should move on because you are becoming rapidly attached, if you feel the need to investigate his lifestyle. Think long think smart most importantly THINK!!
PEACE
2007-04-02 11:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by The Baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand how you can write both "we get intimate" and also "we are not in a relationship". You are approaching this from the wrong direction, so it's no wonder you're confused. You should build a friendship first, and get to know someone well before having sex. So, stop having sex and start becoming friends. Handling things this way will make you feel better about yourself, better about your relationship, and it will save you the money of hiring a PI.
2007-04-02 11:04:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he is involved wiht someone if he sounds disceiving or tries to change the subject it may be a good idea to do a background check on him. PI's are not cheap and one of the best things for you to supply them is his social insurance number and date of birth this will help them narrow down his activities and see if he has ever been married or still is. One good sign to is look for a ring band like faded skin on his ring finger. Sometimes there will be one if he is married but not always if he doesn't wear a ring. Maybe it's time to find out where he lives and just surprise him one day
if he is not open to telling where he lives or never invites you to his place I would say red flag?. Consider maybe just having someone do surveillance on him for the day and to take photos for evidence if he is involved with someone else you will have proof?
Good Luck and this day and age you can never be over suspicious really with all the cheating that goe's on. It sounds to me like you have some moral fiber and just would feel bad if you were seeing someone that was married?
GOD BLESS!
2007-04-02 11:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if you guys do end up getting really close, or even marrying then it's probably going to come to the light in some form or another, and how would you use the information that the private detective gives you? not to mention the fact that it's more than a little stalker-like. i mean, the decision is up to you, but it really doesn't seem like a very good idea
2007-04-02 11:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by aneyasong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your case, yes it is weird and wrong to hire a private eye to spy on someone who hasn't made any sort of real commitment to you.
If you were married an/or lived together, had kids together, then I could see you trying to get some peace of mind by otherwise save the money you were going to spend on the private eye for a nice night on the town!
2007-04-02 11:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by Larry Class 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever happened to asking him? I'd do that before hiring a private detective. After you've asked, if you don't believe him, then I don't see anything wrong with hiring a detective, but ask first, it could save you a lot of money if he just says, "Yes."
2007-04-02 11:01:51 · answer #7 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have any right to have him followed.. I mean, it's not like you're his Wife, and think he may be cheating on you. You aren't even his girlfriend.
I don't get it.. You trust him enough to "get intimate" with him so often.. yet you don't trust him enough to just ask him if he is seeing someone else??
Sorry.. I don't see much of a chance for a solid relationship between you two.
2007-04-02 11:12:35 · answer #8 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can investigate, but remember, don't do it unless you are willing to accept whatever truth comes your way. I wouldn't waste my time or money hiring a p.i. Then again, why don't you just ask him. If he lies to you, do you really want to be with him and if his feelings are not as strong as yours he will tell you the truth. Either, I would probably try asking him straight forward first.
2007-04-02 10:57:12 · answer #9 · answered by Elvira 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are asking the question than there is a reason....either you are unable to trust or he is undeserving of your trust....either way there is a problem!
2007-04-02 10:58:26 · answer #10 · answered by caraanne2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋