My husband is planning on going to another gaming dinner this weekend, becoming a hobby, is he?

Question

being passive aggressive or found a glitch in our marriage to avoid me? He's going this weekend to a gaming dinner (where they serve fresh hunted meat).

I find these extremely repulsive. He went about a month ago, and after it, he spent the weekend in the guest room.

The first time, his friend invited him last minute ... past 2 times, he went out of his way searching for one and is driving 2 hours away to go to it.

Last time, I requested that we do not go near each other for a couple of days until all the "meat" has been processed throughout his system.

I mean, I can't imagine kissing him after that, or being nearby when any bodily functions erupt ... I had him to use the guest bedroom and bathroom too.

I am a vegetarian, AND DON'T MIND WHEN HE EATS REGULAR MEAT, but it's this "game" meat that really truly grosses me out about this situation.

I gave him no problem about going last time, and he honored my request above, so is he trying to avoid me for a weekend again?

Answer 1

I think you are being very unfair.
With our ME ME ME attitude, you are lucky it is just the weekends.

I love fresh kill meat, there is none better.
Eat your greens, I too am a member of PETA.

PEOPLE
EATING
TASTY
ANIMALS

Answer 2

Just because it is something that you do not enjoy or want to do does not mean that he has to avoid it. I does not sound like he is going to these things every weekend, if that was the case he may very well be trying to avoid you since he knows that you will be "tolerant" of him and his normally bodily functions only at a distance. That doesn't sound like this but it does sound like you try and say that you "don't mind when he eats regular meat" how big of you!! (note the sarcasm) He is an adult that ate meat when you met him, this is not a shocker nor is it something that you get to ***** about now. You knew it, you loved him and accepted him that means completely.

And the comment about bodily functions erupting cracked me up.....do you stay in the guest room and use the guest bathroom after eating broccoli, cauliflower or asparagus??? These things naturally cause gas and guess what they don't know if you are male or female.

I would look a little harder at yourself and see if perhaps you are being a tad too controling and trying to force your vegetarianism on him. Maybe not by making him eat as you do but by making his life hell when he doesn't.

Answer 3

I know you say that it just makes you ill, but you may want to really think this through. It may be a different game he is playing all together. What a perfect way to cover up getting something on the side. Knowing that you will not want to touch him or be around him for a couple of days and probably not even want to touch his foul clothing, he could be having the scent of another woman on him and you would never know. He gets a day or two to clean his body, his clothes and it is all at your request. I think the next time he goes to a "gaming dinner", you should tell him you want to go at the last minute and see how he reacts. When he all the sudden wants to know why you want to go when everything about it goes against your beliefs and ideals, just tell him that you are not planning on eating the meat, but since it is that important to him, you really want to try and be a part of it. I am willing to bet that he either cancels out and does not go or comes up with some real good reason that you can not go, so you will not have to go, but I think you will find out that he may not be going to the gaming dinner that he says he is. Besides, you may want to ask him what kind of "game" they are having, you may just find out that the "fresh hunted meat" is not even in season. In fact, just find out what kind of meat they are supposed to be having this weekend and shoot me an email with the location of this so called gaming dinner and I will let you know if there is even an open season in that state. If the answer is no, then you may want to let him know at the last minute that you want to go with him and see how he reacts...

Answer 4

Regular meat is really no different then game meat, infact game meat is probably killed in a more humane way to say the least.
If he likes this kind of thing and is having a weekend with the boys then why do you not support him?Do you feel there may be something else going on there??If not then why stop him from going....you're not the one eating the meat girly.

Answer 5

No - he thinks things are fine as you were okay with it as long as he slept in the other room until he "processed" the meat. It's something that the two of you don't enjoy together but I'm sure there are things you do that he passes on as well.

That's just the way it is. If you weren't honest with him initially about being okay with it then you need to apologize to him for making him believe otherwise and tell him the truth.

How big of an issue is it for you? Is there no way for you to amuse yourself when he does this once a month? Or is it a control issue on your part?

Look within for your answers.

Answer 6

Yuck that sounds so gross. I don't know if he is trying to avoid you or not. You need to ask yourself how the other areas of your relationship are. Is there plenty of intamicy in your relationship? Do the two of you fight alot? Do you do things together as a couple? Think and see if there is a reason he would want to avoid you. It could be that this is just something he really enjoys although I would think that if it grosses you out so bad that he would stop.

Answer 7

He prolly has just found something that he enjoys doing. My boyfriend loves to field trial beagles and just got back from a 5 day hunt in another state. This isn't something I necessarily enjoy doing, but I support his "hobby" because he loves it so much.
I think you should really try to be open-minded and supportive of your husband. Staying away from each other for several days until his food is digested is a little extreme. There is no one out there who will agree with everything you think, feel, or do and everyone is different. Be supportive and love your husband for who he is.

Answer 8

I think you're making a mountain out of a molehill. Your husband is going once a month....that's not often enough to say he's avoiding you. As for your other problem.....being grossed out....how would you feel if he told you he found being near you after you ate carrots grossed him out? Bet not good. I understand and respect your eating habits....maybe you should respect his too. It's not a big enough deal to cause such a rift in a marriage over.

Answer 9

Sounds like passive-aggressive control games. I imagine he doesn't like how nagging and controlling you get about him eating wild meat, and so he's purposely doing this to "show you" what he thinks. Immature, yes, but understandable. Talk to him about it. See if you can get him to explain what's going on. Trust and respect are very important in a relationship, and it sounds like neither one of you respect the other very much.

Answer 10

Yes...yes he is trying to avoid you. Your aberrant personality and behavior is annoying him. Going to a gaming dinner is a good excuse to spend some time away from you. You are a bit odd and quirky and he can only spend so much time with you before he needs a vacation.

Answer 11

There is no difference between "regular" meat and game meat -- both come from dead animals. Sounds like a psychological hangup on your part.

He's going because he wants to go. It is not him who is avoiding you, it is you who are avoiding him. The choice is yours how to react. You don't have to exile him if you don't want.