my mom told me if i ever got pregnant i would be kicked outta the house. my bf don't know yet and i'm afraid i'm gonna lose my baby cuz my mom might make me have an abortion. i DESPERATLEY need help. i'm 2 young to be a mom! :(
2007-04-02 03:12:22 · 31 answers · asked by bonitababy101 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Oh huni, go and talk with your school counselor first if not your mom, you have to tell someone right away!
Good Luck
2007-04-02 03:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by Invisible Pink RN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you just said it yourself. too young to be a mom. I agree with that. I'm 20 and I don't even want a child yet because I'm not done living my life and ready to settle with a child.
You should talk to the boyfriend- maybe take a friend with you since guys can act out when they find out something like this. I say a friend so that if he goes to hit you or anything you have someone else there to protect you.
You should talk to your mother- I know it'd be scary and to be honest I am a college student, out of my own, in a very long term relationship and I'd still be scared to tell my parents if I was pregnant. You should really talk to your mother, either way you need to see a doctor, get vitamins, make sure the baby is healthy, etc.
A girl I went to school with had a baby at the same age as you and it's weird looking back because I still have no children and she has a 6 year old....just weird! Now she'd be a good mother but she's a crackhead instead.
Ok, back to you!
I really don't think your mother would kick you out so young, but I do not know your mother. So before you talk to her, talk to a friend and ask them if you can stay at their house for a few days if she does kick you out. Make sure you have a place to go. If you can't go to a friends house maybe the bf's or a women's shelter? Look into these things.
I'm not sure where you live or the laws on abortions there however in Canada I'm pretty sure no matter what age no one can force you to have an abortion since it's your body. The boyfriend can say he wants you to have one and your mom to but Im pretty sure only you can give an Ok for it to happen.
Have you considered adoption? So many couples are waiting to adopt a new born. You could pick a family close by to you and have it so you can visit the child ofen...but not as the mother. as an aunt or cousin since it can be confusing for the child and when you give up your child you give up your right to them as their mother.
This is your body and no one can tell you what to do, we can only give you the facts and options and let you choose the one BEST FOR YOU.
Just after this child I really hoped you learned that it's easy to become pregnant- way easier than most people think and so you need to protect yourself. birth control pills work! Condoms protect from STD's and trust me hunni stds are everywhere you need to protect yourself.
I'm running short on time but please feel free to email me anytime you want.
Brittanyplayfoot@yahoo.ca
I'm a student of early childhood education so I'm pretty educated about pregnancy and child raising, plus I had a big role in raising my nephew for the past 3 years.
2007-04-02 03:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I do have to say you are too young to be having sex, but that will do you no good now. You need to go to a clinic to find out your options and discuss them with a proffesional. Only then can you make the discision that will be best for you and the baby. You will have to tell your Mom and that wont be easy. She probably will react badly at first, but she just might surprise you. If she is that bad of a mother that she would throw you out on your own than you do have places you can go. You should research places that house young mothers. I agree you are too young to be a mother but there are better options than abortion. Just get all the facts and talk to someone that isnt a friend or family as well to help you. Best of luck hun, and try to let this be a life changing event. Just becuase you started having sex doesnt mean you have to continue, and if you are not ready to deal with consiquenses of sexuall activity then you are not as ready for sex as you thought.
2007-04-02 03:29:30 · answer #3 · answered by armywife1083 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are also too young to have an abortion. Abortions are no walk in the park for adults and I surely believe for a 13 year old, it would be torture. I would say to tell your mother as soon as possible, no matter what she has told you. She is still your mother and probably won't really kick you out. She will be disappointed in you, but hopefully she will help you with your decision. If she does kick you out, are there any family members who could help you out? Also, there are teen shelters and homes for young mothers. If you think you are too young to be a mom, go for adoption. In those homes for young mothers, they will pay all of your medical bills, give you food, shelter and an allowance. If you choose abortion, know that this will be a decision that you will live with for the rest of your life. God bless you!
2007-04-02 03:39:40 · answer #4 · answered by downinmn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a counselor at school.... and look into an adoption! You are too young to be a mom. I got pregnant for the first time at 16 and had her at 17... I kept her, and am glad I did now... But you are way too young to have a baby!
Mistakes happen! Just please don't kill your baby! NO BODY can force you into having an abortion!
Show your baby the ultimate gift of love! Give him or her up for adoption so that BOTH of you can be happy! You can finish growing up and your baby can grow up in a financially stable house with a loving mom and dad!
Good luck!
Email me if you have questions!
2007-04-02 06:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by mom_of_4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should really consider the option pf having an abortion b/c you are really too young to have a baby.You don't even have a full education,you can't afford it,you probably could'nt even afford for you to live alone what makes you think you can do it with a baby?Baby's make your life so much harder I was 15 when i had my first and i thought by having her she woukd make my life sooooo much better but she only made it harder for not only me but for her.So if you think your life is hard now have a baby it will be even harder!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Either have an abortion or have the baby and give it up for adoption there are alot of women out there who can't have baby's and wish they could...but everything is all on you babe.oh and you need to talk to your bf see what he thinks is right n what u 2 should do.I'm sure he'll be a bit of help.if you need more help on deciding what you should do e-mail me at megan420a@yahoo.com
2007-04-02 04:23:00 · answer #6 · answered by megan420a 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Though you are under age no one can legally make you abort your child. Just tell her and most likely her harsh words were aimed at hoping you would not get pregnant and she will be less hostile than you think. I had my first child at 16 and got pregnant at 15 and my mom had said the same thing but did not fallow through when I told her I was pregnant although she was disappointed b/c it meant to her that my life would go nowhere like hers did b/c of having kids to early. As for being to young? yes you are but does that stop you from beng able to be a good mom? No it does not but life will be very trying at times and you will need strength of character and lots of family and friends for moral, spiritual, and physical help and support.
2007-04-02 03:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by Dayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a doctors appontment and don't listen to these people putting you down. There are places where you can get free prenatal care because you are so young. However the fact that you are so young may cause alot of complications in your pregnancy so again see a doctor asap and start taking vitamins. As for telling your mother first state how you feel come up with a plan of how you are going to take care of this child and talk to her about that ask her for her support and nothing more. If she still insist on an abortion. ... there is always adoption to consider. And there is such things as open adoption where you get to visit your child and whtch him or her grow up!! Hope that helps and good luck with everything.
2007-04-02 03:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
First thing you have to remember is that she is your mom and not matter what she says she will love you. You have to tell her. Yes she will probably be very upset and angry. I was pregnant as a teen (i was older thank 14). The hardest thing I had to do was tell my mother. I felt like I had let her down. But for your health as well as your babies you have to tell her so you can seek medical help. I don't know the laws in your state. In my state a 14 year old must have a parents or guardians consent to visit the dr. But, you can talk to your school counselor or you can contact a planned parent hood center or your local health department. These people work with this everyday. The will help you tell our mother. And if worse comes to worse and she does kick you out they will help you to stay with other family member or find you someone to stay with. Remember you are not alone. You can't deal with this by yourself! You must tell someone so you can seek the appropriate medical attention.
2007-04-02 04:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by just being helpful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone. You can't just wait and not say anything, it won't go away on it's own. You should go to Planned Parenthood or a Crisis pregnancy center in your area (google it) tell them everything. They have ppl there that can help you with evrything you need. Don't be scared to tell your mom. If she reacts poorly it would be her loss. You say you are too young to be a mom and you probably are if you think so. We all make mistakes. Abortion is not your only option. Get to a clinic as soon as possible while you still have options; regular abortion is so invasive and terrible.
2007-04-02 03:19:26 · answer #10 · answered by shopgirl4502 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont panic there is more then one thing you can do. You need to first talk to an adult that you trust and let them know what is going on. Then you need to decide if your going to a) have an abortion b) give the baby up for adoption or c) keep the baby. If your afraid to talk to your mom why not research all your options first then go to your mom with knowledge of everything you research so atleast she knows that you know what your talking about. But make sure you talk to someone soon. As well no matter what you decide make sure you get on birth control after this is dealt with. You are not alone. Alot of girls have this happen. I myself im 22 with three kids. My best friend had her first child at fourteen and know is 22 with four kids. Not that im telling you to keep the baby but you have to decide what is right for you and your child. Good luck
2007-04-02 03:26:35 · answer #11 · answered by braga e 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋