I'm 13 and I live with S.(27-year-old friend of mine) and my twin-daughters (4 months old). S. works in FBI and she often has to work at nights and sometimes has a work at home and other agents come.It's ok but when ANYONE comes and see my daughters,they say "What cuuuute sweeeet babies" and want to touch them with their dirty hands.I and S always wash our hands with a soap before touching the twins but other people just don't consider the fact that my babies are still BABIES!What should I do?And what can S. do about that(if she talk with the other what can she say - "Don't touch the babies!"???)?And am I overreacting and overprotecting my babies?Please help!
2007-04-02 02:56:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
No your not overreacting...Im the same way with all my kids...I freak out about germs and cant stand when someone just comes up and touches them with their germ infested hands...(like have you noticed many women go to the bathroom and DONT WASH THEIR HANDS!!!) thats just disgusting and irresponsible...I would just speak up and say "I have a thing about germs and my babies...could you please wash your hands before playing with them...just to calm my nerves" its polite and gets your point across without being rude
2007-04-02 03:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by JLee 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They are your babies and no one should touch them without asking, so anything you say is okay. Just tell them that the doctor is concerned about their contact with germs and if they want to touch or hold them, they need to wash their hands. You could also keep some hand sanitizer next to them and just point to it. People will understand or they won't touch them. New mothers are prone to protectiveness and that's a good thing.
Because of your age, people will probably try to give you advice or laugh off your concerns, but you just tell them that you've been reading lots of material and have been speaking to your doctor at length and even if they don't agree with you, they are your children and you are going to go with what you feel comfortable with.
2007-04-02 10:05:39 · answer #2 · answered by lawmom 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion, carry hand sanitizer with you, when someone goes to touch the babies, or even when you take someone around them, pull out the hand sanitizer..... I know tons of people that literally have a bottle in the diaper bag, one in their purse, and one in the nursery....
By the way, I don't think you are overreacting at all, I would, or will be the same way
2007-04-02 10:03:59 · answer #3 · answered by Law 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
your not being overprotective at all. just ask nicely please can i get you a wipe before you touch the baby or if you please wash your hands i'll let you hold the baby. or take them out of the room when she has peolpe come over OR after they do touch them use a wipe on the children to clean them up- right there. a little germs are not going to hurt by may help in building their immune system.
2007-04-02 10:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by mama of 4+extras? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, its nasty and disrespectful to the baby to touch them with dirty hands. u just don't know where it has been.
it won't be the end of the world if people touch them. u would be surprised at how many germs are in your clean house or at the dr. office.
just keep sanitizers handy.
2007-04-02 10:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am a mother of two sons and you do not have to wash your hands unless the babies are premature or have health issues just don't let them touch them in the face or if they have like grease from cars or some type chemicle on thier hands then make them wash them.....You have to learn to let the babies get use to the world because they will be living in it learn to balance being too protective and being protective..
2007-04-02 10:07:20 · answer #6 · answered by ____kiss____ *AKA* lllkiss_of_deathlll 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i have twin boys and it was exactly the same for me , it drove me nuts that complete strangers would come over while i was shopping or visiting the doctors etc and want to touch the boys, you find your self in an awfull possition not wanting to seem rude by telling them not to touch but wanting to protect your children . it took me a while but i got so tired of poeple doing it that i just asked them politly not to .if they didnt like it then it was tuff but you'll find most poeple understand . like me i bet you get asked really silly questions too like " are they twins " and " are they both girls "even if they are dressed head to toe in pink ( blue in my case ).
i wouldnt worry to much the novelty wears off as they get older people dont want to fuss as much .
good luck and enjoy your babies.
2007-04-02 12:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by leo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe u could keep some hand sanitizer around and when they want to touch the babies just ask them could they please use it before touching the babies just explain u dont want them catching a cold. Be nice bout it they should understand.
2007-04-02 10:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by NickyNawlins 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can politely ask them "do you mind washing your hands first, just incase" and people will do it.... if they really wanted to touch the baby they wouldnt be offended, I ask people to all the time, and have never had anyone say anything bad about it... better safe then sorry!
2007-04-02 10:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by Why? ... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u r overreacting. they r 4 months old already. if they were just weeks old, i might understand. u can buy a little pump bottle of hand sanitizer to keep on the counter or coffee table or whatever, and someone approaches the babies, point to it and say "would u mind? they're just now getting better" and leave it at that.
2007-04-02 10:06:05 · answer #10 · answered by dwalkercpa 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋