My ex-girlfriend & I split up over a month ago.We were under a lot of stress from other things,& she finished with me because of it. Now everything's fine. The other day,we went out for a drink,& spoke for nearly 4 hours! She said she feels guilty for finishing,doesn't want2get back together,yet does want to spend time with me...and just see where the friendship goes...then she says maybe i can come over and we watch a dvd/have lunch etc on friday..i've said yes. The thing is, I want more from her,& am confused as I dont think she does from me, although she wasnt really clear! What do I do, do I still go,& is it worth me saying/trying anything? I feel like trying to kiss here lol! She says she doesnt want to lead me on!
2007-04-02 02:46:18 · 8 answers · asked by La Souffle 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
ok. pretend you are just going over to one of your best friend's house to hang out. You watch a movie. you talk to them. You order pizza. You go home. It sounds like she's unsure and wants to test the water. She may decide on down the line that she wants to get back to gether with you. just act like a friend, nothing more. (unless she acts like more!!!)
2007-04-02 02:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by 569™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has been honest with you about her feelings and where she stands. If you can handle being friends with her, then go on Friday and just enjoy her company. It sounds like she wants to hang out and spend some time with you as friends and then see how and where things go from there. If I were you I wouldn't try to make any moves on her, because it may scare her off. Take it slow and maybe things will work out between you. I think at this point, it's important to listen to what she says and respect her wishes to be just friends. If you can't handle a friendship with her, be honest and tell her so and why. Good luck, I hope everything works out for the two of you.
2007-04-02 09:58:36 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best guess (because lord knows we could never follow a woman's logic) is that you probably aren't going to get real far. If she wanted to hook up she would have. Go ahead, have lunch, watch a movie, but expect nothing. However, pay attention, see if she seems like she might want the same as you. If she isn't giving off a lustful vibe, don't waste your time trying to woo her. She will call you, hang out with you, and complain whenever you try to see someone else, without any of the *ahem* physical benefits.
2007-04-02 09:54:41 · answer #3 · answered by Rhyno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is vary important that you are open with her. Its good that she has told you how she feels but does she know how you feel. Rather talk to her and see if you can work it out rather that making a sudden move and spoiling the friendship. You then need to decide if you are happy to just be her friend and get over her or if its going to best not to see her at all. Being friends with someone you have stronger feeling for is sometimes harder that breaking it off completly because if she doesn't feel the same about you, chances are that she will get someone els, and seeing her with someone els might just hurt you even more. Good luck
2007-04-02 09:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by Bubbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I agree with the last guy. I think she might be afraid to be alone so she's keeping you around until she can find someone else. Girls do it all the time, and they do it because guys always fall for it. They say they don't want to lead you on when that is exactly what they are doing.
If it were me, I would tell her that you want her to be your girlfriend or be nothing at all to you, and if she chooses to be nothing at all then you won't have to worry about dealing with losing her three months from now when it's more painful and you have to listen to her gush about some other guy.
2007-04-02 09:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by octo75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not being clear, she's either confused about her feelings, or unsure about yours. So, you have two options. Either follow her lead, see where it goes...or be very clear about what you want; tell her exactly how you feel. Whenever I look back at my relationships, I always wish I had been able to be clear and articulate my feelings and intentions. Then I wish even more, that I could have found someone that could be clear to me.
2007-04-02 09:54:12 · answer #6 · answered by spychic19 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep a close eye on this one. Try to notice only the things she does when your not around.. She might be putting on a front just to keep you around because she feels bad/ or just cant find anyone else at the moment.
2007-04-02 09:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by atticus_loser03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her straight out whether she wants to continue a relationship or not. If not, tell her to go away ad stop messing with your feelings so that you may both go on with your lives.
2007-04-02 10:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋