My mother completely stressed me out about my grades. I go to school away from home. I didn't turn in a project last quarter but my mother doesn't seem to get that the failing grade (it was JUST a point below passing) will be balanced out with my semester grade, the one that will be on my transcript. Whenever I see my mothers name calling on my cellphone I get stressed out and tense. People are amazed at how tense I am. I can't tell my mom NOT to call me because she's stressing me out because I'm a minor and I have no power. She is also an abusive parent and I hate going home because theres absolutly nothing I can do to stop anything she does. She is completely stressing me out to the point that I can't function, I am becoming depressed, and I'm actually making myself phsically sick. What should I do? My mom wouldn't accept my reasoning and even if she did she wouldn't care. Is there anything I can do? Or are there ways to help me deal with this intense stress?
2007-04-02 02:23:56 · 9 answers · asked by Speak 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
At this point theres really nothing I can do about the previous grade but she will continue to bring it up till kingdom come and use it to stress me out this quarter.
2007-04-02 02:30:26 · update #1
I"m sorry you are going through this. I think it's sad that your Mom is stressing you out to the point of being physically ill. I would suggest you see a counselor or talk to one of the teachers that you trust about this. Keeping it bottled up inside is going to make it worse. Try to focus on the fact that you are doing the best you can and be proud of what you have accomplished no matter what anyone else says. Since you know what your Mom is like, be prepared for it when she calls. Try to let it go in one ear and out the other. Then when you get off the phone with her, try to do something calming for yourself. Take a walk, listen to some of your favorite music or take a bubble bath. You have to find a way to destress. Working out would be a good way for you to use that negative energy and turn it into positive. I know you said you can't really talk to your Mom about your feelings, but try to tell her that you are doing the best you can and that's all anyone can expect from you. Please find someone to talk to about this. It really will help. Good luck to you!
2007-04-02 02:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
See the counselor there and repeat this: ask if they could contact your mother on your behalf, and tell her what an adverse effect her behaviour is having on you, and that it will result in you not having anything at all to do with her in a few short years. Practice for 15 - 20 mins daily, and when needed, the mindfulness breathing method at http://dbtselfhelp.com/ & see http://www.coolnurse.com/stress.htm Drink chamomile tea, with honey, but no milk, or take Valerian root. Tai Chi courses, or yoga may help. See www.yogasite.com and try some of the positions for stress relief.
2007-04-02 03:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by CLICKHEREx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Study
2007-04-02 02:28:53 · answer #3 · answered by Patrick O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
deal stress
2016-02-01 11:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should put the stress into studying more. Sometimes stress is good, if it helps us to get things done. So get studying.
2007-04-02 02:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's physically abusive you've got a problem for government authorities.
Otherwise, just ignore her. I mean, stand there and say, "yes, okay, fine," but don't pay too much attention to what she says. What can she do to you, anyways?
If your parents aren't reasonable, you have to learn to decide for yourself how much you should have done. Then, when you grow up, move halfway across the world, and don't give her your address. :P
2007-04-02 02:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Turn off your cell phone when your feeling stressed.Write your Mom a letter telling her that your trying your hardest and need her support.Tell her that her criticising you feels like abuse to you and its making you feel physically and mentally sick!Then go to your school counselor for someone to talk to about this.Good luck.
2007-04-02 02:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by april showers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she only want the best for you
kept reminding her you are doing your best and slowly she
will back off as time go on
try to let other members of your family know of your problem you face with your mother , maybe there is a better way out
they can help
2007-04-02 02:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by kimht 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you can turn in the project. Late. Half points is better than none. But don't worry about what she says. Its more important for you to want to suceed than for yourself than to suceed to please a parent. It's your grade, and your time that's being taken up. Make the most of it.
2007-04-02 02:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by hallucinatingcandles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be snarky but this whiny question is like reading a bad version of a catcher in the rye. Study more and quit being a wuss.
2007-04-02 02:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by marc 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋