If you where faced with a choice of losing a child or your childs other parent. Who would you choose?
2007-04-02 01:46:36 · 30 answers · asked by superliftboy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry I should add that this hypthetical.
2007-04-02 02:23:25 · update #1
Myself and Sidney V. its HYPOTHETICAL, I wouldn't want someone like you pair as my kids or partner, understand that the question is difficult and its not easy, but easy to be judgmental. Thank you to those who looked at sympathetically, Particulary Margaret for your honesty,
If I was so unfortunate, I would not know, as I love my wife and children, and would find life terrible if either were not with me, however I think I would have to loose my wife for the reasons that a few of you came up with, children have longer to live.
2007-04-02 05:33:46 · update #2
I love my Husband dearly and could not imagine life without him. If anything ever happened to him, I would have a hard time breathing, much less living out the rest of my life. I would, however, I would chose my son or my stepdaughter over my Husband anytime, not contest. They are my children. They come first. I can't even imagine the pain of losing a child. I can't even imagine being able to continue living (not talkin suicide here, I'm talking emotional deadness) after losing a child.
2007-04-02 02:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by chenchs_girl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You really know the answer to this. No person (spouse, other parent, boyfriend or girlfriend) should ever come before your child. My parents divorced when I was 15 and my sister was 2 and b/c I didn't get along with my stepmother, my father moved on and acted as though I didn't exist. He had two other daughters and my sister and I were never treated as his children unless he wanted something. We always felt we were replaced.
I then had my own two daughters and it made it even harder for me to understand what my father did. I would never choose someone over them, not even their own father. I would never be able to allow a day to go by or birthdays, holidays, etc go by without them knowing they are important to me and I love them and miss them (should I not have custody for some reason).
You will never regret choosing your child. But you will never have the same relationship if you don't. They rely on you to be the parent and make the right decisions for the long run. Any person that would ask you to choose is not someone you want to be with.
2007-04-02 02:40:30 · answer #2 · answered by famurattla 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There can be no answer to the question without more data. If you had a definite choice and I pray you never have, I think most people would in fact save their child. This is natural throughout the animal world. However, if the chance of saving one was greater than the other, it would be sensible to attempt to save the one with greatest chance of survival. Example, if your house was on fire and the other parent was downstairs but unconscious and you child was upstairs and the staircase was an inferno, your only option would, realistically, be to save the other parent. As I said I sincerely hope that you are never faced with such a decision. I expect to get many bad answers for that but I am afraid that is one of the facts of life.
2007-04-02 02:33:49 · answer #3 · answered by Tony A 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It depends on what situation you are speaking of. If you mean at childbirth, the mother dies or the child dies, I would choose my wife to live. If you mean one or the other will leave I would choose my child. No one ever gives me an alternative between them and my children. It is never an easy decision and it is one you would have to live with, no one else can bare that burden for you. So it would have to be what your heart tells you.
Atrum Abeo-itum
2007-04-02 02:05:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't see this as a dilemma at all. I would choose my children before anyone. Children should be your first priority! I don't know why you're being faced with such a choice, but your primary responsibility lies with your children.
I love my husband very much, but I love my children more! I love them more than anything, more than my own life.
2007-04-02 01:52:29 · answer #5 · answered by Linnygirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mmmm I know someone who's mum was put in this position because the father wasn't good, she chose the partner. Consequently the child (the girl I know) was brought up by her grandparents. I personally would choose my child.
2007-04-02 04:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by truth_and_time_tells_all 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would always choose my child and i hope my partner would too. We have lived longer and a child should be the most important thing.
2007-04-02 03:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by shez 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Choose the Child
Always, I would choose the child. No one 'normal' would be able to live with them self if they chose the adult. and tried to forget a child. Can you imagine how devastated the child would feel their entire life if 'left' by their mom?
NO dilemma here!
2007-04-02 02:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by nickname 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would save my child. The other parent is an adult, able to make choices for his or her self, the child is inocent and dependant on the parent to look out for his/her best intrest.
2007-04-02 01:52:24 · answer #9 · answered by happymom4jesus 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely choose my kids. My 2 little boys come first. They didn't ask to be born and it is my job to make sure that they have good lives and grow up safe.
2007-04-02 04:31:05 · answer #10 · answered by Carol S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋