Will you or that person secretly be hoping that the other will "come around". What if both people are attracted to each other, but realize they're not a good "match"?
I had a female friend once who I confided in. 1st she gave me good advice on relationships. Then I noticed all her advice became "I don't think she's good for you","You should just break up w/her". Eventually she confessed she had a crush on me. All this after I initially tried to date her, then she convinced me I wasn't her type, plus she had a boyfriend! I felt somewhat flattered, but more betrayed because I felt she was purposely trying to sabotage my relationships.
What should I have done?
2007-04-01 23:05:19 · 12 answers · asked by NativeAtlantean 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Go with the flow...and the rest will surely follow :)
2007-04-09 18:17:15 · answer #1 · answered by khatzzz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you followed your heart which is a good thing. Personally I think that you should have done the same thing because you are now in a position to look at things clearly. I think you made a good choice because if you didn't do what you did.. you never know... she could have been the girl for you. =)
2007-04-10 05:45:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anh T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she was truly your friend as she was only interested in herself and not what made you happy. You should always be friends with your partners attraction is one thing but trust and communication is vital to making a relationship work. When you love someone you put their needs first before your own and you do your best to make them happy
2007-04-02 06:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by phillippa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give it a shot. Ask out your friend even if you guys aren't a good match give it a shot. You'll never know until you try.
If it doesn't work out you can still be friends with that person if you want.
2007-04-09 23:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you werent attracted to the person in some way you wouldnt be friends in the first place. I think its fine..although I would keep it to myself until the subject came up if it ever does..things have a way of working theirselves out.Let it flow..see where it goes.
2007-04-09 15:48:35 · answer #5 · answered by purplehazeinmydrain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go with your own feelings. Do not ask or listen to your friends about what they think with your relationships with other people.
2007-04-02 15:28:48 · answer #6 · answered by Heidi T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.... mabye you should have just said no to her. I have been in that situation before. You should have asked her why you wern't good for another girl, and if she confessed then, well.... you should tell her that you dont like her.
2007-04-10 02:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously gave you mixed messages. You may want to discontinue this friendship, but it not, then you need to discuss this with her. People need to be totally honest with each other.
2007-04-10 03:08:05 · answer #8 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes there is nothing wrong with it but respect the boundaries of the friendship and see what is up with the friend and where it goes from there
2007-04-09 01:11:22 · answer #9 · answered by wiccanangel2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your own feelings
2007-04-02 06:14:17 · answer #10 · answered by The Questioner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋