He died on the 7th of March and the people who murdered are still not caught by the police, Im in shock, I just dont find a way to get out of this.
We were about to get engaged....I have my family to take care of me but obviously my friends n family cannot feel the pain inside me...
How shall i make myself feel better?
2007-04-01 22:22:04 · 23 answers · asked by SARA H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
In time.. Time heals.. Move on with your life.. The pain will be there but be strong and lessen the pain...
2007-04-01 22:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old saying that time heals all wounds is true. It has not even been a month yet so you can not expect to feel better this quickly. This is someone you planned on having in your life forever so losing him, especially to a criminal act, will be difficult to recover from. Give yourself permission to grieve. Take time to think about him and don't try to rush through this process. It can take years to recover from this harsh situation. You need supportive friends and family to assist you right now. Talk outloud about your feelings and don't feel guilty when you need to talk more. Keep yourself healthy and tend to your needs. Losing someone you love is painful no matter what happened. I wish you some peace of mind. I hope the people who comitted this crime are caught and punished quickly. Move forward slowly and one day you will realize that you are able to breathe without your breath being knocked out of you. Talk to a professional if you need too. I think everyone would understand you taking time to tend to your aching heart. I wish you the best.
2007-04-01 22:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by justclicktherubyslippers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pls accept my condolence and wishes for things going better way soon.
I guess it will take time for you to take things back the way it is. Naturally, in time you'll see all things happens for a reason. I don't know some times it's like that to me. But of course what you feel right now maybe different to we the loss feeling I have before.
Um, try counting 1 to 7. My prof. advised me that in 2005. I counted 1 for the 1st day I told myself I will move on. And the next day it's 2 and 7 for the 7th.
God Speed!
2007-04-01 22:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by cher_dc_xu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural to grieve over the loss of a loved one -
and this is a process where 'time will heal'
remember the precious times you had together
save the photos - know that he knew of your love
and that he does not want you to be miserable forever
keep your chin up - the sunshine will come back out -
and smile - you are very pretty!
while no one can 'take his place' - there may be another
in a few months - or years - who can share your love with you
do not be in a rush - let the time heal you
best of luck!
2007-04-01 22:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by tom4bucs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were getting engaged, then his family too knows you well and they can relate to your pain more than your own folks and friends.
Visit them, maybe they are also feeling alone and need comfort. Maybe, after visiting them, you find that your pain is much less compared to theirs as they spent years raising him and on top of that his killers are still at large.
Pursue the case with police. If you are able to help them nab the killers, you'll definitely feel easy.
2007-04-01 22:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by sanjay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear. I know it's kind of crude to say this, bur you will get over it eventually with time. Try to meet new people. It will do you good in the meantime. You still have a life to live and have to let go and move on at some point.
2007-04-01 22:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by Amelie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about that the only anwser is time there are times when things are healed quickly and other time when time is the only anwser believe me though he would and does want you to move on and hopefully in the future you will find another who won't be like him but who will be good to you and that you will grow to love no one on this earth can feel your pain unfortunately it is something that you have to deal with
2007-04-01 22:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain will be there for quite some time. I too went through the loss that you feel. My mistake was not seeking counseling to help me through it. You really need to. Family and friends cannot offer the assistance that a counselor can. I am so sorry for your pain.
2007-04-01 22:44:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ponder on the past. Instead look forward to a new day and learn from this experience as it is part of life. No matter how painful it is, we all got to go through it someday, sometime.
2007-04-01 22:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your lost. Maybe try to do the things that you once had found fun. Do something that will keep your mind distracted like art, watching comedy movies, taking a relaxing bath stuff like that. I hope you will feel better.
2007-04-01 22:25:39 · answer #10 · answered by kitty_loves_cuddles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh poor baby! i am really sorry...
death is a hard thing to witness, especially when it takes someone u love, somone u use to spend your time with :(
but it's the end of everything honey, it's the weak point of all beings.
try to get yourself together, am not telling u to forget him, just move on with your life, and get yourself busy with things u like to do.
put yourself in a better mood, and remember he might be in a better place now.
dear, dnt give up...cos u have all this life to live, and u have so much love to give.
Best of LUCK
2007-04-01 22:29:49 · answer #11 · answered by Farah K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋