My ex-girlfriend & I split up a month ago.We were under a lot of stress from other things,& she finished with me because of it. Now everything's fine. The other day,we went out for a drink,& spoke for nearly 4 hours! She said she feels guilty for finishing,doesn't want2get back together,yet does want to spend time with me...and just see where the friendship goes...then she says maybe i can come over and we watch a dvd/have lunch etc on friday..i've said yes. The thing is, I want more from her,& am confused as I dont think she does from me, although she wasnt really clear! What do I do, do I still go,& is it worth me saying/trying anything?
2007-04-01 22:04:24 · 4 answers · asked by Rejhaven 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The first thing you need to do is make yourself happy. Part ways with her temporarily. Maybe a month or two. If you and her still want to hang out after not communicating in anyway for a month then pursue it. If after that month or two you find out that you are happy without her then there is your answer. You need to realize that having her in front of you every day is actually clouding your judgement and not allowing you to think clearly.
2007-04-01 22:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by questionallthings 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go then.... just check your boundaries... you are not together now... just spend time together...
you guys just forget that the word "boyfriend" & "girlfriend" has a "FRIEND" in the end... so the bottom line here is... you should be friends even if you are together in a relationship. that will outlast the money, friends, properties, family, sex, everything, because you will see that the thing you both need is the friendship... and that is as important or more than commitment... because you will be for each other no matter what... that's what friends are for, right? In good times and bad times, I'll be on your side forevermore... ;-)
2007-04-02 09:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by DEADPOOL 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sad to say this brother but she is pulling your strings like a puppet. Guess what...she knows exactly whats shes doing, and the worst part maybe is that she has gotten completely over you and now wants for you to still be lost in the passed or "hung up" over her for her little and twisted enjoyment. Might i add that she may well have already another guy who she is seeing. Believe it or not, women have brains and they can be evil too. So it's not just guys alone that has the ***** metaphorically speaking. Lol
2007-04-02 05:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by ChanteC 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you have moved on and are seeing some other girl (which doesn't seem to be the case from what you wrote), go ahead and see. Yes, she doesn't seem to be rushing along since she doesn't want to get hurt again and / or hurt you again.
2007-04-02 05:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by Swamy 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋