My wife and I met in January 2006 and got married in September. We fell madly in love with each other and although things happened fast everything felt right. Now she tells me that although she still loves me, she has fallen out of love with me. Can she fall back in love with me?
2007-04-01 21:27:53 · 28 answers · asked by hughzog 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, you should woo her. Sounds like you went so fast you missed that stage.
2007-04-01 21:31:23 · answer #1 · answered by margaret w 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the magic has worn off. I don't know if I would have married someone that fast. It seams to me that she is the one with a big problem. Love changes. Sometimes you love someone, sometimes you are in love with them. Sometimes you are infatuated with them. Sometimes you fall out of love for a while but you still care and love them as a person. It changes like that. There is nothing you can do to help your wife. You can only hope that she does the right moral thing and does'nt cheat on you. If you can take a look at some annoying things you do that she doesn't like and complains about and change them then she might be more encouraged to change her attitude a little bit.
Best of luck in the future.
Sincerily
Fawne~Mine
2007-04-02 04:39:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, that happens plenty. Too many people rush into marriage thinking that it willl stay exciting. Being married is so much harder than just dating. You have to work together towards the same goals, as well as your own goals. It takes plenty of work and patience.
There are plenty of ups and downs even in the best of marriages. Sometimes your love will feel stronger than other times. Lack of communication generally has alot to do with why people lose their love. Try talking and really listening to your wife. Find out what she feels that she is missing in the relationship.
If talking things out does not work, I would suggest that you get some marriage counseling before calling it quits.
2007-04-02 04:41:18 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being 'in love' is the romantic knee trembling stuff that people tend to get over relatively soon sometimes.
Loving someone is staying there however you feel, and always being there for someone whatever happens.
She could probably fall 'in love' again given the right circumstances. But if she really loves you, the being 'in love' bit wont matter cos she is always still going to be there.
I think you need to find out exactly what she means.
2007-04-02 04:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by jeanimus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that what she might mean is that first fire of passion that you get when you start off in a relationship. often, this is actually lust. this wanes after a while, and good job too cos it uses up all your adrenalin. it is replaced by a kind of comfortable friendly love. like old comfy slippers. this might sound like a bad thing but in fact it is long lasting and reliable. sometimes however, you miss that fire, and this can be catered for by some forward planning. maybe a night in a hotel. a trip to ann summers to buy something a bit off the wall. or anything to spice it up a bit. its a natural thing, it just means that you need to work at your relationship. don't worry......its fun
2007-04-04 04:47:33 · answer #5 · answered by fat momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course that is so easy all you have to do is look really well dressed to make her look twice at you, take her out, buy her things do little luvy duvy things to her, this will make her feel wanted, she loves you and the reason she has fallen out of love with you is becasue you not impressing her like you use to..
show her a gud tym, jus coz ya marrid the fun shud not be over... IMPRESS HER TAKE CONTROL GET HETR BACK!!
2007-04-02 04:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get yourself a very well paid job or win the lottery there is a good chance that she will fall back in love with you at a rate of knots. A lot of other women will fall in love with you as well.
2007-04-02 05:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
romantic love does not last...i have been married three times and had a few ladies in between...so i know that love comes in but the romantic love goes away quickly...its just part of life..i wish i was wrong...this last marriage i am currently in will probably be my last..as i have been married 21 years...and we have a lot of stuff between us..house, cars, etc etc
i wish i was wrong...but i don't think the average couple can sustain a truly romantic relationship..
at least your wife is honest with you...that takes courage...it means she trusts you to tell you the truth
2007-04-02 04:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be paniked . it happenes that with time we dont feel this butterflies anymore but instead of it love grows and becomes stronger . u can heat things up by taking more time with each other , sometimes routine is tracking us down and its a sign that we should do more things together and talk more ! i am sure that things will go fine with both of u !!! just remember that we have to work on relationships every day !
good luck X
2007-04-02 04:51:38 · answer #9 · answered by athina68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry about that. you could just express exactly how you feel about her still, and how much she means to you. Just like a previous answer 'woo her' :] cause I'm pretty sure you guys missed that stage too. but, i don't think you guys went to fast. Love just happens. I wish you both the best of luck
2007-04-02 04:37:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually when things go too fast the result are bad, this happened twice for me,and i was about to get married twice but after a short time i realise that im not really in love and i stop all the plans i started, my adviceyou is for try but don't try too much,i don't want to frustrate you but the guys that i was about to marry tried really hard but i was not in love,they were almost perfect but love is........
2007-04-02 04:41:29 · answer #11 · answered by eve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋