Why do people insist on this in families see ? below?

Question

My husand and I are from a large family on both sides and my question is why do people that we are related to think we should have to view things they way they do? For example one of my relatives went through hell to have children and thier mother lives and breathes for her gandkids and that is fine.
But KNOWING full and dam* well we could not have kids she says to us you should get involved with your niece and nephews more. But just because she gets the privlidge of being a grandma does not mean my husband and I have to jump up and down and whisitsle dixie.

Why do people in families insist that you have to share in thier every joy and trumph? I am happy for my realtive I truly am and I ahve come to terms and accepted the things I cannot change.
I feel very strongly there is always a sibling or an in law that does get favored, worhsipped or esteemed more than others have you experienced this? How did you deal with this and go forward? Thank you for your answers God bless.

Answer 1

Its not that simple, the fact is family dynamics are extremely complicated, to the point that, thats why most physcologist and councilors have to spend years with a single individual. So no easy answer for your specific delema unless I could talk to you more about the interpersonal relationships you share with everyone and thats beyond yahoo! answers... but the answer to your frist question is because that is the nature of families. That's the nature of most human relationships, and you can't get to sore at them if they don't know personally what your true feelings are, espacially if you don't say something to them about it... Yes usually because there is no good book on family, nor personal relationships, it goes to course that the squeakie wheel gets the grease so to speak.... I deal with it personally by taking my family life extremely seriously. Extremely.... like that first case you explain were it doesn't seem she understands how you are cope/dealing with your inability to have kids. You need to be strait with her about how that little opioin of her effects you. F family harmony, so much has not been done, that needs to be done, for the sack of peoples feelings or family harmoney. That stuff is no where near important as teaching people how to be more compassinate, espacially with your feelings. It isn't easy but if your going to do it for anyone do it for your family.... I'm sure its more complicated then that, but that is the direction you need to go... good bless you too....