Is it right to believe in someone,I mean to really think that this one person is meant for you?That this person is the one that you want to get old with?Even if you realize that their are many other individuals out there willing to make an effort to get to know and love you?
2007-04-01 17:21:06 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There 2 answers to this:
1. If your already in a relationship with her and actually think she's the one. Then of course you should think that and pursue that idea.
2. If your only friends and your thinking that. Get to know her better during a date first before you screw your life up.
2007-04-01 17:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by Apex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in soul mates, but I do believe in finding someone that you know you want to and could grow old with. I mean, if it wasn't right, why do we get married? If it wasn't right to pick one person, then, heck, we might as well all go back to the monkey days and make babies with everything in sight. Don't think for a second that everything will work out perfectly, though. Every relationship, even the best, takes a lot of work. If this really is the person that you think you can grow old with, than consider this. Could you really put this person before all other things in your life, especially yourself? Love is great, but it's not what makes relationships. Any relationship, especially marriage, that's going to last, takes love, and COMMITMENT. This is vital. If you truly love this person, and are planning on marrying them, then commit now that you will never, ever knowingly do anything that could even remotely hurt them, and that every breath you take, every beat of your heart, is dedicated, committed to making them the happiest of all people on this planet. Swear this to yourself, get it in writing if necessary. Then do everything you can to make sure it comes true. Also, I would suggest that you spend at least a week, if not a month, doing just that--putting them ahead of you in everything. If you can do that week or month, then I think you're ready to settle down and grow old with that person who's lucky enough to have you. Well, I hope this has helped, and I send you the best of luck. May both of you be happy and be the cause of each other's happiness.
2007-04-02 00:51:24 · answer #2 · answered by Tzuriel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about the moral right or wrong about this but I know how you feel and I can say, right or wrong, you are not alone. The sad part would be if you didn't realize that you loved that person to such an extent and let a beautiful lesson in life go unchecked. Or, as in my case, realize that level of intimacy and be there with it heart and soul and then for some reason the relation runs its course and it is all over and all I have are the beautiful memories of the most beautiful person I ever knew. But I realized this person as my eternal mate and even though we are not together now (a beautifully hard lesson for me to learn) I do thank my lucky stars for the experience. Being there may be more right than wrong.
2007-04-02 00:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by JORGE N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
generally speaking, if you question it, this probably isn't the right person. but lets see, maybe it is. first you have to ask yourself a few questions: are you grown up? if you are still young you may think its the right person now but when you grow up things will change. also ask yourself, are you comfortable alone? if you feel like you need a relationship with someone else to be happy its hard to be able to tell who is right because you get so lonely and it makes you just pick the best person available. you really can't pick the person for the rest of your life until you are happy alone. also, you need to ask yourself, do you trust yourself knowing that other people may tempt you and want to get to know you? do you like this person more than anyone, even a movie star or the prettiest girl? once you ask yourself these questions and answer honestly, you should be getting an idea. remember, if you arent sure thats fine too, just get to know this person and don't take it too serious. Once you get to know them a little better it might be easier to decide. If they rush you, its probably the wrong person, because they are looking to get someone quick, if they are the right person they will wait and get to know you better. things will work out for the best when taken very slow. anyone who rushes anything should be a big red flag.
2007-04-02 00:42:16 · answer #4 · answered by crueltiburon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are lucky enough to find that special someone that you feel is 'the one' to grow old with, then hang on too them! You still need to work at the relationship don't think that now you have found them that is it. There is always the chance that things can change or people can change. Enjoy your time together as noone knows exactly how long that will be. Knowing that there are others out there may be comforting but you may never find that same connection with another person. I think we all need to believe that there is that extra special person out there for us.
2007-04-02 00:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by Tiga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, its not right.
the one,, is just an idealistic thought, if you love her, grow old with her,
if you are unsatisfied and want to explore other people what are you waiting for?
2007-04-02 00:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah...if you feel that this person is the one for you, you should pursue them.
2007-04-02 00:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by math_whiz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋