what should i do about my friend?

Question

i love my friend she is awsome. ok so i take her to work and pick her up and take her to the store and take her mom where ever she needs to go aswell. and i dont mind cuz they r like my family but they dont understand that i have a boyfriend too. i see my friend atleast once a day we are always together. and she expects that. but i have my boyfriend who i see about 2 maybe 3 times a week. and she kinda gets mad if i spend time wit him. she dosnt have a bf so i dont think she understands. i want to spend time with both. but do i really need to see her EVERYDAY? and take her to work ALL the time? dont i deserve to spend time with my boyfriend? she sometimes gets mad if i spend the night at his house or smthing. and she shouldnt. but yeah how can i talk to her about this with out making her really pissed off? i just want her to be ok with me seeing this guy. she dosnt like us together and thinks the age difference is to big (hes 24 and im almost 18) but yeah what should i say to her? thnx

Answer 1

Seems part of you thinks she is right. Seems you have problems with guilt. Which usually means your not to confident that your in the right, which would also explain why your on here instead of trusting your own instincts. She is a bit right thou, 24 with an 18 year old.... good luck, but your also right. Your giving to much too her which isn't doing ether one of you a favor. Also you need to realize that she shouldn't be dependent on you all the time. The type of relationship you should have, should allow as much time as possible from each other. Time shouldn't ever be a problem. Thats a childish way she is looking at it. Its unrealistic for her to get upset at you for living your life. So I'm doubting how good of friend this person is in the frist place... if she really as some compassion for you and your situation ether she is doing what she can to keep you away from this guy, or she isn't compassionate and she just doesn't want to loss you, even know she can't you guys are friends.... but she might not have a healthy way to look at it. Give her some distance, take care of youself for a while, and chances are if you guys are good for each other, she'll grow from it. Now with him again I say good luck.....