Tonite, I set her up in a nice motel with the baby. She just cant take it anymore. The father of the baby is a total mental misfit and thank the Lord she didnt marry him. He has made my niece cry at least 4-5 times in the last couple of weeks and I have never seen her cry. He is very critical, says she cant do anything righ and he real is just a drunken slob.
She took me up on my motel room for the nite offer and I am hoping she can get some peace. I sent my daughter who is 19 and able to babysit along, so she can just relax. Should I do anything else to help her out or just stay out of it? Is this wrong? We did not tell him where she is and I am playing stupid. I am an advocate for domestic violence victims because I was in the same situation 20 yrs ago, and do not feel like I had any support. I just am trying to help her out...and he is an alcoholic and I cannot believe how terrible he talks to her. Its a matter of time before he starts becoming physically abusive.
2007-04-01 15:50:44 · 9 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Poor thing. Have her call "Women Aware" or some other local woman's group, or possible a church. Help is definitely out there. He boyfriend seems like a text book abuser. Pls tell her that this is NOT her fault. He will try to make her feel this way so she will go back. Things will never change...they will only escalate.
Colic is tough. How old is the baby? My daughter had colic and the dr. put her on meds, but also said that it is important to burp the baby after every ounce. This is tough, but it really helps.
Good luck and God Bless. I will pray for your neice to have strength to break free from her situation.
2007-04-01 16:05:17 · answer #1 · answered by K G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have done just about all you can do. Further entanglement could result in you being the target of his next drunken tirade. But, be ready to do the same again at any time.
I think that the only thing that you can do is to be ready to help your niece leave the situation when she comes to the realization that it just can't continue. I suppose being in an abusive relationship is an addiction... sort of like alcohol addiction...you just have to hit bottom before you take it seriously enough to let the cure work.
If you try to help more than she is ready to accept, or before she is willing to accept it, it may be interpreted as meddling...and the cause of her issues, rather than the cure. I'm glad that you did what you did though, these little breaks like this will remind her that life is not always full of tears. She will remember that more and more every time she gets victimized...and each time it will be harder for her to go back.
2007-04-02 01:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by getting her out of there but it is her choice if she wishes to go back. There is only so much you can do for her. Perhaps suggest to her some women support groups so that way she learns she is worth so more than she is getting. Also suggest to your niece that Gripe water works wonders for babies with colic. Best of luck!!
2007-04-01 15:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Colic is whilst theres air trapped in the babys physique which needs to be expelled from the two end! what i do is that if i'm mendacity down is to hold my toddler in a sitting place on my chest and bend him over so his head touches his feet that usually works rapidly away.
2016-10-02 01:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing getting her out of there. Lets just pray that she will stay apart from him. Alcohlics have a way of mentally abusing people to the point they feel worthless and like they are nothing without them. Tell her to try a al anon meeting...they are a great way for people to meet other people in their same situation. I used to go to them a lot because my dad was a very bad drunk and I found it very helpful!
2007-04-01 16:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by got all I need 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is great that you are trying to help, however, you maybe getting your niece in some legal trouble, as I don't know how all that works. Where is your niece's mother/father? And can you get her to file a restraining order against the your niece's boyfriend? Good luck. Maybe her boyfriend will get help when he realizes noone will stay with him because of his behavior.
2007-04-01 15:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by lins1972 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a Hope House she could go to for future help and counseling. Tommorrow will come and the motel bills will add up. I would send her somewhere that can help her get on her own.
2007-04-01 16:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by noone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are worried in the least for your neice's safety and the safety of that new baby I would call the cops and have something on record. That is very sad and I pray that your neice is able to remove herself and the baby from the situation.
2007-04-01 15:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by yoopergoddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be carefull but not careless alchohalics are not scared of anything or anybody i would bring her into my home if i were you but keep it on the down low but let it be her decission dont force her or she wont come to you when she has another problem .. good luck baby
2007-04-01 15:55:48 · answer #9 · answered by Angela F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋