Should I tell my mom?

Question

I have all the proof in the world that my dad is cheating on my mother ! But my dad isn't aware of this fact.

I don't know if I should tell my mother that, my dad is cheating on her.
Or- Just let it all play out, and see what happens, cause hopefully he'll get what he deservers!

So should I let it play out or tell!

And I know for a fact my mom doesn't know!
Trust me I know!

Answer 1

This is a tricky one because usually when you tell someone something they may not believe it whether you have proof or not. You say your Mother doesn't know which could be true, but most of us who has been cheated on has a feeling that it is happening. If you think your Mother is better off knowing then tell, if she is happy with him I would think twice before telling it. I know it has to be hard for you knowing all this, but again it all depends on how your Mother will take the news.

Answer 2

I am in the same situation. I know that he has done this in the past. I confronted family members and have been told this has been going on for years. Some of the affairs that happen in the past she is aware of. Your mom may know more than what you think. I would stay out of it this is between a married couple. However if you are ever asked, I would tell the truth. Let you Dad know this.

Answer 3

You should talk to your dad 1st and give him the chance to come clean,however if you have pics or something that can be destroyed make copies,and if he hasnt done it in a given time frame yes you do need to tell your mom. He is putting at risk your mothers health and shows no respect for family morals. But you need to visit with him,there might also be a reason why he is doing this,however with that said there really isnt an excuss for that behavior but you need both sides because sometimes it looks like something and has been spured by major major major neglect ect. Just be careful and let someone clos to you know when your planning to do this.

Answer 4

My father many many years ago cheated on my mom I was 14 at the time and found condoms in his glove box while on a fishing trip with him. That day I lost all respect for him. Anyhow I didnt say a word to my mom who would she believe after all? Then when I was 17 he did it again this time the lady he was cheating on my mother with {or atleast having sex w on one occassion} went to the PD they called my mother in off patrol said a "citizen needs to speak with you" and the woman told her. My mother was VERY hurt beyond words {though she suspected it}, she moved out and then all us kids were hurt. Women suspect more then you give us credit for believe me we do because when my mom left my dad she told him she knew of the other lady too something we didnt think she did. However they worked out their problems and remained married until the day of my mothers death. Let it play out because odds are she suspects it

Answer 5

A lot of people will feel very hurt But tell your mom. As a mother and a wife I would feel very hurt if my child knew and never told me. Of course at first she may be sorta mad at you but it's really NOT you that she's mad at, so don't feel too bad. I know tht you should be loyal to both parents but, it's your mom. So let her know, but take it easy on her. Good Luck.

Answer 6

I would talk with your father. Tell him you know and it needs to stop NOW. Is your fathers relationship with this other woman serious enough to blow apart your mothers entire world? I wouldnt go to your mother over one small slip up, but if hes been carrying on for a long time, HE needs to tell her, not you. (its their relationship, not yours)The longer you pretend nothing is going on, the angrier you will become over it. Tell your father he needs to tell your mother and get counseling by a certain date, or youre going to tell her. Knowing youve found out will more than llikely be enough to make his stop his affair.

Answer 7

I feel that if you have proof beyond a shadow of a doubt then tell her . Have you confronted your dad about it yet and ask him to tell her and to be honest about it? Try asking and talking to him first.

Answer 8

You should tell your mother if you know for a fact that he is cheating..I wouldn't want my mother to find out later then realize I knew all along..

Answer 9

if i were you i would confront my father just to make sure all my facts are accurate then i would make him tell my mother because it would not be my place to tell so in other words DON'T LET IT PLAY OUT!!! Hope this situation works out best of luck!!!

Answer 10

Tell your mom , she may get hurt if she has to see it the hard way and find out herself.if you tell her she may believe you.