I recently found out some things out about my paretns and at first I was not shocked but the more i think about it the more I am angry and upset. What do you do when you find out your aprents have had drug problems your whole life and had no clue?
2007-04-01 13:57:31 · 10 answers · asked by APRIL B 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well, What do you do ....good question..you kinda feel well lied to...and oblivious to what goes on in Your Own Home ..because we tend to pretend that there is nothing going on in the home ..that we are all HAppy go Lucky Damn People..NOT!!!
I would have to say swetheart..Hold on to what little you have and have great faith and tell The Lord Almighty to give you strength to Overcome what has taken over your family..
Never give up..I know its hard to accept when people have lied and deceived you, but there is no other way to get around it..You must take that step and say ..They are my parents ..what would they do if the shoe was on the other foot..exactly honey they wouldnt give up on you.. Love them and take real good care of them..for God is going to Bless you abundantly you will see in seven fold..
with Love and Care
good luck
2007-04-01 14:16:28 · answer #1 · answered by ck1_content 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that maybe you should go for counselling before you try to help your parents.
You really do need too be able too work through all your feelings and be able to forgive them for what they have done.
This wont come easy and you are going to have to work hard to get through it, you will possibly feel like your entire childhood was a lie, try not too think like this drug problem or not your parents did the best they could possibly do with the situation they were in.
You have every right too be angry and upset its a major thing that you were kept in the dark about, But you really do need too find a way too forgive, let go, and move on and love them anyway.
They are your parents, and you seem like you are fairly well adjusted, they obviously did OK considering the situation they were in.
Good luck! do some research on their drug of choice so you can understand the effects better,
Get some help first so you can assist your parents better.
Feel free too email me if you need too!
2007-04-01 21:14:56 · answer #2 · answered by elfsbabe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear April
Greetings
These things only get worse with time. Let them know how much it bothers you. No matter hard it is, don’t ever let then think that it is ok with you. If you do it is called “enabling“. Drug problems usually stem from deep rooted insecurities. As an addicts problem gets worse they begin to hate themselves and treat there loved ones poorly. You may need to find help for them in the future. At this time they will not be treated like criminals. They will be treated for there illness.
In Christ
Hox
2007-04-01 21:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by ladderofdivine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I think you should be incredible grateful that your parents brought you up without this knowledge, that they kept you out of it, and that you grew up without their habit affecting you too profoundly. You were incredibly lucky! I have seen the affects of people who were brought up with parents who abused alcohol and did not hide it from them. Even in the best cases, the people were affected.
People are very fragile and are prone to all kinds of habits that are harmful to them. Those who sought to keep it from their children were showing their love and were trying to protect their children from their weaknesses. If they sought to protect you, do not punish them for it. If they cannot get understanding and love from their own family, where are they supposed to find it? What have parents done for their children?
2007-04-01 21:14:03 · answer #4 · answered by cavassi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would offer to help them, maybe they need a way out of it, but don't really want to deal with it. See if you can talk to them about it, It may be ackward because usually is the other way around, but see if they open up to you. Good luck
2007-04-01 21:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by alxever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there kids who grew into adults that are doing what they wanted to do, the same way you will grow up and do some crazy things, but remember, there your parents, but there also just like every other person out the the is living there life.
2007-04-01 21:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by Eric M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the hid it from you because they had your best interest in mind?
It is never pleasant to become aware of a parents limitation, but we all have a past and we all have limitations.
2007-04-01 21:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by jeff_kotowski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
help them
love them
respect them....like always but
don't follow in the same steps.
2007-04-01 21:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by chastityelizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him why. and try to help him if he was pressured.
2007-04-01 21:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by NeonZebra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray :)
2007-04-01 21:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by ColorMeHappy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋