I dream about him and everything. He's smart, comforting, playful with the kids, and an all-around handyman. I won't do anything that I'm not supposed to, but whenever I am around him I blush and carry on like a schoolgirl. Is distance the only thing that will help this dilemma.
2007-04-01 13:37:39 · 12 answers · asked by Es Nina Chica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it will pass just don't act on it.
2007-04-01 13:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by openminded 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you....But do NOT ever give anyone the slightest hint of how you feel! Careful with the blushing, other people may notice it...Make sure you focus on the "bad" things about the brother (he's not perfect, is he?!), and the good things about the husband. Make a list if you have to!!!!!!! Return to it anytime you feel the "feelings" coming on...It's just a fantasy, which people have because of proximity, need for harmless excitement,etc.
But keeping it under control is the thing! And hidden!! Cannot stress that enough in this situation. Good luck!
2007-04-01 20:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by Samantha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass is always greener on the other side when you don't truly love your partner or when there's trouble in paradise. I'm sure that your husband has some of those qualities that you may be taking for granted and overlooking, and if not, then you need to set him down and have a good old fashioned heart to heart about what attracted youto him in the beginning that he's maybe lost touch with also. As far as the brother goes, you need to wake up and realize he is off limits tell yourself to STOP it and realize you need to get ahold of yourself. The brother may have be trying to show his good side because he feels comfortable around you and knowing that you are his family now and if you even try to show him a flirtatious side continuously, it may cause strain on your family altogether. He may lose respect totally for you as his brother's wife that he now respects and trusts as his family. Hon, you need to do some soul searching and show some maturity here and stop acting foolish.....do you want to lose everything and destroy lives here? No, I'm sure you don't, so STOP!
2007-04-01 20:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa W 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should stop daydreaming about a man who is not your husband. First it is wrong. You married your husband hopefully because you loved him and wanted a life with him. If you had feelings about his brother before you married your husband, then I think that was a mistake altogether. And if you have kids....this could hurt them greatly...for I know too well how that works. Second, if your husband gets any ideas that you feel this way he might take it as cheating anyway. It would put a dent in his relationship with his brother and you.
I would really sit down and think about this before things get bad.
2007-04-01 20:51:24 · answer #4 · answered by taljalea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hunny your in a tight situation. Does your husband ask you if you like him or not? and if he does did you say yes or no? if you said no then that would be the best thing, i know theres this thing about how in a relationship you have to be totally honest with eachother but this could ruin yours. Keep it to yourself but when your husbands not around you could keep acting like you do or you could stop all together before your husbands brother starts asking you about the way you act towards him or worse your husbands brother could go to your husband and ask him about you. So if i was you i would keep it to myself and go on with your life like nothings happen. Hope this helped :]
2007-04-01 20:46:20 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You as a wife need to concentrate on your hus-
band and be faithful to him. This thing you have
with his brother is a fantasy and unless you want it
to be real then you need to think about leaving
and divorcing your husband. If you love your hus-
band then you should have not time for his bro-
ther.
2007-04-01 20:47:23 · answer #6 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't play with a forest fire because you will get incinerated?
get what I'm saying to you , I'm in no way a violent person to my baby's mother but if she did that it would be different .
you should stay away from your man's brother get it
don't just be another back stabbing statistic?
2007-04-01 21:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by Damien GOTTI 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you need to keep your distance.
But also ask yourself what you are not getting out of your relationship with your husband to be fantisising about someone else.
2007-04-01 20:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i thought i was the only one who had this happen...i am attracted to both of my wifes sisters however i like you don't want to do anything to jeopardize my marriage or theirs.. it is just a fantasy and as long as you keep it to yourself and a secret it will continue to bring you pleasure in your own mind
2007-04-01 20:47:54 · answer #9 · answered by cacowboy_06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
UH-OH.....keep your distance for the sake of your marraige, husband and family.
2007-04-01 21:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by manhattanmaryanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jerry Springer bring it on !
2007-04-01 20:49:29 · answer #11 · answered by siaosi 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋