Why do we stay in relationships, even though we know that there is no hope for its survival?

Question

If relationships are failing, why do we still feel the need to hold on to it?

Answer 1

This is a question that bamboozles me too. I dont know why people stay in stale relationships.....maybe its a control thing.....maybe one partner is the manipulator and the other one is the doormat who feels guilty about everything he/she does. Maybe the manipulator sets down the rules and the doormatt will abide by them no matter what. Whatever the case, I know one thing.....people who stay in a relationship where the love is gone suffer a huge lack of pride and self-esteem.......why on earth would anyone degrade themselves by staying with a man/woman who doesnt love them. It gets even worse....some couples will even go as far as begging the spouse to stay even when the person has made it clear how he/she feels. Its degrading as far as I am concerned and people need to find where they lost their pride and pick it up again to go out and find someone who really does love them, who really does want to be with them. They need to respect themselves enough to want more out of their lives.

Answer 2

Survival???

If you truly love that person, then there is always help, and its up to both of use to start recognising whats the real problem and to sit down and actually talk with out labels and hatred. Then move to the next step and create ways on how to better communicate and show affections of love. Things fail because we let them fail. So pick your head up and do something about it......... Youll better love yourself not only because of the result but because you have done the best you can....... I hope things go real well for everyone needs some loving.

Answer 3

Because of fear of the unknown (it's rough out here, this dating game)
Because people love their mates and trust n the fact (faith) that it will get better if u both hold on and fight 2 stay 2gether.
We as humans hate 2 fail at anything.
Children could keep people 2gether.
Because u love your mate u just might not like their actions r behavior.
Because your relationship/marriage just might be worth saving.

Answer 4

We gravitate towards the familiar, no matter if it's good or bad. Humans hate change and sometimes it's easier to just deal with what you know than to venture outside your safe bubble. And the hopeless side of us thinks that one day, maybe we'll / he'll /she'll change into what we really want. You have a better chance at winning the lottery or curing cancer. When in actuality we would be "happier" if we just accept that person with all their faults and stopped desiring change in the first place. Once you kill all need to have your "needs" met immediately, you can then begin to live in "the now" and train yourself to be happy with what you already have.

Answer 5

The comfort of familiarity ... or fear of the unknown ... same thing. When you're in a bad relationship, you may hate it, but you know it -- you know its problems and the issues and a lot of people find that preferable to the unknown problems and issues they'd deal with by breaking up and either being alone or dating again or in a different relationship.

Answer 6

I believe we do this because there is some shred of hope and love that we hold on to. Sometimes even though we say theres no hope, there is some hope, some small light we hold on to, we hope to see. The good times we cling to, and even though the bad times devastate us and fill our hearts with doubt, I believe that when theres love, we will always hold on to even the smallest hope there is

Answer 7

When we married, we made a promise. The desire to stick in their and try to work it out is noble. However, what eventually starts to happen sometimes is the deterioration of the original vows and intention. This happened to me and when we divorced it was the most painful experience of my life. Now I am very content...10 years later. And he was a bad person, but I had made that promise and it felt like flesh ripping from flesh.

Answer 8

Mostly , it's fear. Fear of not having that person around any more , fear of not being good enough to find someone new , ?fear of not finding someone soon enough. Let go of the fear . Fear robs us of so much . Here is a real chance to move on and grow. Know that you are a good person , deserving of real love and a trusting relationship and that it will come , AFTER you let go of this one.

Answer 9

Familiarity

Answer 10

Probably because we are stupid huh? Some have children and they say it benefits the children having two people in the household. Some don't have children and feel like there isn't nobody better out there to find.