When your off tdy or deployment away from home are there things that you all do that is suppose to be forgotten about once your home like (what goes on in vegas stays in vegas) Basically actin like it's your birthday and your on a freakin vacation. Can someone tell me why my husband acts strange every tdy or deployment? I have talked to some other wives and they experience some of the same things. Do you guys travel to those other countries and forget about your life here or what? I think the military may know what I'm talking about so please let me know okay , honestly.
2007-04-01 12:43:26 · 9 answers · asked by just because 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Does he stay in contact with you at all? Do you think he still cares? Cuz I know countless people that cheat. It goes both ways and males and females do it as well. Just look for the signs if he's cheating or not, but don't jump to conclusions. Being deployed isn't all that bad either, so don't think he's acting different because it's so horrible where he is. Cuz that's a bunch of BS. Sometimes it's a freakin vacation. I'm sorry, but good luck.
2007-04-01 16:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by Tim A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Army wife here. I too live on a military installation, and I know that wives forget their husbands while husbands not home. Sure it happens, but it happens to couples that were not strong to begin with. A deployment/tdy/field training/school will only put a wedge into an existing crack to widen it. Solid "seasoned" couples get through these things just fine.
My husband has deployed twice since we have been together, and he is about to deploy again. We are stronger and closer than ever. It is a choice to grow together. The military will always control my husbands time, but the Army cannot control our relationship. I cant control what the Army decides, but I can control how I respond to it. And I respond with patience and kindness, and lots of love, hugs, and kisses for husband.
2007-04-01 20:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by an88mikewife 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know I live on an army post and it's amazing how many wives forget they have husbands when they go on deployment. So, it goes both ways.
All you can do is be the best wife or husband you can be and hope your significant other will be the same.
2007-04-01 20:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a female just so you know what perspective you are receiving. When we go away for training or for a deployment we enter into a different world. It is sooo important to keep reminding myself that it is temporary. . Whether it is with a husband, brother, sister or parents i have noticed that i change due to my experiences away. While i grow/change i return home and everything is the same, others may have experienced change also but hopefully when it comes to my husband we are not growing apart due to that change. To help I would suggest talking to him about his job and try to learn the military jargon. we use soooo many acronyms and it helps when a significan other/family member can really understand what we're talking about when we begin to speak of our jobs....hope that helps
2007-04-01 19:53:14 · answer #4 · answered by Divine_10 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am not really quite sure what you are asking but my husband is in the military and is currently in Iraq. He is due home in less than 6 months. YAY! Okay, but anyway, my husband doesn't act any different when he is deployed. But then again, every person is different. The only difference I notice is that he is more depressed because he wants to be home. He always calls me when he can, we talk online whenever possible, he writes me letters. He wants to know what I did the days that I talk to him. He is a total sweetheart.
But every person is different and deals with things in their own way. I am not sure why your husband could be acting this way, but ask him!
2007-04-01 20:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by Brianna's Mommy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Having served 22yrs in the military and having
been deployed all over the world, such as Asia,
Europe, Middle East and Latin America, I never
once forgot my part of life which was my wife and
I constantly kept in touch with her any way I could.
That made her strong as with me also and we
never strayed apart because she knew what I
needed to do and I knew that she was there to
support me, that is why when I retired she and I
are stronger in our relationship more so than ever.
2007-04-01 20:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by RudiA 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's the 50 mile rule.
2007-04-01 19:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope for the best but prepare for the worst. I saw it happen all the time, on both sides. From the service member and civilian spouse. "Out of sight, out of mind."
2007-04-01 20:15:47 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is what army wives go through, I personally have no respect for army wives who put up with this..........Leave his sorry ***....What kind of husband does this to his wife.
2007-04-01 21:00:51 · answer #9 · answered by I Like Grapes 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋