continue letting your daughter associate with them? Daughter is 13, soon to be 14, and everyone at her school seems to be bi, boys and girls. And seemingly sexually active. I know I don't have anything to worry about as far as experimenting with boys (at least I hope I don't), but these girls sleep over. Should I be concerned? One one hand, I feel like she's too young to be doing anything of this nature, but on the other, I feel like at least it's girls and I don't have to worry about pregnancy and STD's. Parents & teens input welcome...
2007-04-01 12:21:40 · 19 answers · asked by A nobody from Oklahoma 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Unfortunately, bisexuality seems to be a middle school trend, so it isn't surprising that so many of your daughter's friends identify this way.
I think that if you've talked with your daughter about sex and sexuality, and you trust each other, there's no reason to even worry about it.
However, even if you haven't and refuse to, I personally believe that you shouldn't be able to control who your daughter associates with, particularly once you're dealing with a teenager. She has to be able to make her own choices about friends.
2007-04-01 12:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by Alice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, she may be too young for 'anything of this nature' to you, but I doubt she thinks she's too young.
Second, while pregnancy may be off the list of things to worry about, STDs can and are tranmitted during female-female sexual activity; it's the transfer of body fluids, not the gender of those involved that creates risk.
If you believe your daughter may be now or will soon be sexually active, have a frank and open discussion with her and be sure to mention the sexual activity to her physician, so she can receive the proper medical care.
Good luck, and remember, she's not going to tell you a thing if all you'll do is get mad at her, so keep your emotions in check and model adult behavior.
2007-04-01 19:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by eschampion 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter's friends' sexualities should probably be the least of your worries. If the other kids are sexually active and you are concerned for your daughter, try having an open dialogue about a healthy and happy sexuality. Try to become her ally in the discovery of herself. If you isolate her from her friends because of their sexuality, she will only become more distant and will not share her experiences or concerns.
2007-04-01 19:29:45 · answer #3 · answered by wirefence 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter if your daughter is associating with others that are bi, and at that age they are probably just saying it to be cool, or just trying new things. You might have to worry about STD's even if she is with girls. Talk to your daughter thats the only advice I have to give.
2007-04-01 19:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by AliLeA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good communication channel open, make sure you talk to her about STD no matter what.
it would not hurt to ask her what she already knows. Might surprise you.
Maybe get some pamphlets you can leave around the house if you not on good communications terms.
If your so inclined talk to her about abstinence.
and if she might be active with boys, talk to her about safe sex, in an adult manner. Make sure she gets on the pill.
You can research the internet for some very good sites.
2007-04-01 21:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by BJ Freeman sic itur ad astra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am bi. In my teen years, when I had sleepovers, my friends were just my friends. I knew they were straight and I respected that. I made no passes at them nor did I suggest any "experimenting." Those were simply fun evenings.
Don't let your daughter's friend's sexual orientation be the deciding factor. Watch for any good or bad traits in your daughter's friend as if she were straight.
2007-04-01 19:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess I would still let my daughter hang out with her friends.
but if you haven't you should talk to her about sex and safe sex. You might think she is to young to do something like that but she is around the age where she will start becoming of that nature (if she hasn't already.) and you don't want to have that talk when it's to late.
2007-04-01 19:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by goldenbrowngod 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cant stop her being friends with them. as a parent just watch and be there when she turns to u be close to her tell her u love her and that she can always talk to u about anything and if she is bi or gay be proud of her for who she is u have a special girl and some times parents get caught up with there dreams of what they want as parents. its all about love and accepting ur children and there identity.
Jess
2007-04-01 19:31:35 · answer #8 · answered by Tassie Jess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a 19 year old girl and i think u should let her continue associteing with them., but she can still get an std if she does sexual things with them ,she can split open a condom if she is going to give oral to a girl and if a girl is going to give her oral then the girl can split open a condom., but if your daughter uses a split opend condom then she probley wont be able to taste the girls pu55y there for she might still be curious so i think that if shes going to do sexual things with agirl then both of them should get tested for stds , even thought ur daughter might not of ever had sex with a guy if she did any sexual things at all with a guy like for explame bl*w j*b(bj) without a condom on him then she might have an std. but if shes going to do sexual things with a girl and the girl dose get an std test done then if the girl is the type to sleep around then if your daugther continues to do sexual things with the girl she could get an std but if both girls gets tested and there both std free then after she does sexual things with her the frist time she should use a split open condom every time just incase ur daughers friend sleeps around. but i doubt any of her female friends sleeps around. if ur daughter dated a girl and expertanted then there might be more of a chance the girl well get an std test done and your daughter wont have to worry as much about what if the girl sleeps around with me and other people and gives me an std?and ur daughter and the girl shes dating might never pectect them selfs from stds but as long as they get an std tests done then the only real cercon is what if she sleeps around on her and gives her an std but of corse if ur daughter dates a bi girl then sinces alot of girls are on the pill then if the bi girl is on them then she would get an std tests done every so often even though shes in a relation i think. but please if she ever dates a girl for expertaion then please till her to explain to the girl whys hes dating her so that the girl dont get hert in the end , if ur daughter descovers shes straight.
P's I'm sorry if i ddidnt explan it good or if i kinda repected my self . just incase this didnt make since ,there is a type of condom for bl*w j*bs(bj) they are flaverd condoms. the spell check didnt work so , sorry about any missed spelled words.
2007-04-01 20:09:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you try to tell her what to do, she'll do the opposite. Love her unconditionally, even if she becomes a lesbian. This age experiments and I'd much rather my daughter experiment with girls than boys.
2007-04-01 19:27:09 · answer #10 · answered by cidni 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋