after five and a half years, my girlfriend wants to be alone!! Her friends are more important than her boyfriend,& keeping this relationship, plus we have a three year old child that she uses as a pawn to keep leverage over me. Everything must be at her discretion . Otherwise she pulls my parental rights,(not the legal way)!
2007-04-01 12:00:21 · 11 answers · asked by lostnluv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
maybe you should just move on with the girl and take the kid if she's stupid enough to use the kid to make you feel guilty then she really doesn't care about the kid and after 5 yrs she's not serious
2007-04-09 11:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by helendear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I need more details. How much a month do you spend on support? (I don't mean, "I buy the kid presents and take them out to dinner all the time.") I mean, every month, you send money to support and feed your child. How much? Secondly, she is a girlfriend, not a wife. She has no commitment to you, no connection to you except the child. I will gather that you aren't living together, so you're life isn't burdened 24/7 by the presence of a child. Since you've been together for 51/2 years, one would gather that either you or her are not interested in marriage, or maybe she was, but you didn't move in that direction so she's finding other interests. Maybe you were, but she wasn't, either way you are probably stuck. Remember if you love her, and I mean truly love her, you will want what's best for her. Stop being jealous of her friends, and be glad you're with a girl who has friends, there are millions who don't and they make lousy companions.
2007-04-08 09:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by Ice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what legal way? you aren't married and the court has not decided that you could have visitation rights. Why is she just a g/f still after 5 years and a 3 y/o child? Maybe this is her way of moving on and giving you hints?
But will let you in on something about women too. At times we women just need some space that can be ours......not necessarily to do anything wrong, its just we give 24/7 to a home or work or child (or both) and finally we have to find a time for ourselves to survive. Its not personal against our husb or b/f its just something in us that crave friendship with another woman that we can talk to and shop with or even to vent with. Give her some space and see if that won't work, offer to keep your child for her and her friends to go to a movie or shopping sometimes.....not to bars do I mean. Talk with her and see if this would help her some. Good Luck for you and your childs sake.
2007-04-01 19:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by Gypsygrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why aren't you married after all this time and a child? Your decision or hers? Maybe there are other things in the relationship that you need to look at. Whats missing? Sometimes a girl needs some time with her friends especially when under a lot of pressure. Whats the pressure? Look beneath the surface? Its time to have a real heart to heart.
2007-04-09 15:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the page: " Love or Infatuation By, Ann Landers Infatuation is fleeting desire -- one set of glands calling to another. It is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about the relationship that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream. Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time. It is quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It gives you strength and grows beyond you to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his presence, even when he is away. Miles do not separate you. But near or far, you know he is yours and you can wait. Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing him." Love says, "Be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with confidence." Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy. Love is not based on sex. It is the maturation of friendship that makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friends before you can be lovers. Infatuation lacks confidence. When he's away, you wonder if he's being unfaithful. Sometimes, you check. Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. He feels your trust and it makes him even more trustworthy. Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong direction. Love is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you better than you were before." one of my self perceived "girly things" is my addiction to advice columns. this is one of the 'gems' that make them worth more than any superficial entertainment value they might hold. these women are wise.
2007-04-09 05:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by enchanted mermaid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend probably just needs a break from you. I don't know about guys, but with girls, when they find their love, they want to spend every minute with them....but as we (girls) get older, we don't want to spend so much time with our lovers anymore. It just happens....if this doesn't help, try and talk with her about how you feel (when you're BOTH in the proper mood to discuss touchy subjects.) Best of luck to you.
2007-04-01 19:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two things are important in life: (1) Love, and (2) meaning.
If you find meaning, it will lead you to love, and then disappear.
Because love has no meaning. It is its own meaning.
2007-04-09 18:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um sad story?
2007-04-09 18:12:15 · answer #8 · answered by TokyoBlue200 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont believe inlove .. it just screws u over
2007-04-01 19:06:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is when you cant explian why you love them
2007-04-09 18:45:20 · answer #10 · answered by Varsity girl!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋