They've been divorced 7 years, no kids, he claims that doesn't love her anymore. He just has this big story of afraid to hurt her feelings coz she's a fragile lady and still feel guilty of making decision of marrying her then divorcing her and with the fact that she's not dating anybody, that makes it even worse coz my fiance still feel responsible and wanna make sure that she finds somebody who will marry and take care of her. It just doesn't make any sense to me with the way he's thinking, until when he's gonna move on if he's still holding on the past?
2007-04-01 11:53:22 · 12 answers · asked by Nadia Miller 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm 27. Still look young huh? Lucky me :)
2007-04-01 12:01:31 · update #1
He just proposed me last week. He's been way too honest about his past. I know most of his friends and family.
2007-04-01 12:09:05 · update #2
He definitely has emotional issue but i'm sure and positive he doesn't love her anymore. They don't communicate frequently only email and met twice before we met and had phone call long time ago. They aren't friends and i know that really well.
2007-04-01 12:22:05 · update #3
I never ask him to tell his ex. He's the one who wants to call her about something and he told me he wants to tell his ex, which always in delay! not happening!
2007-04-01 13:09:43 · update #4
I really dont think he ows her any explainations about what he is doing with his life. Talk some sense into him. He is not responsible for her anymore and he needs to understand that you cannot protect anyone from getting hurt. They need to do that themselves! He does need to take care of you though. If you guys make each other happy then go for it. But he must do that with no strings attached.
2007-04-07 08:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still very much attached to her. 7 years should have been long enough to get over it and move on, if he hasn't in that amount of time I would almost say he still loves her in some way. It can't be a healthy way since he has asked you to marry him. Think twice before making a commitment to him, you don't want to end up with a broken heart. If he can't let go of her, then there will be 3 people in this marriage, You, Him, and the Ex. Do you always want to be number 2?
2007-04-01 16:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they have been divorced 7 years and do not have any kids...
I'd personally tell him that he needs to move on with you right now. He has NO ties to this previous woman. He needs to put more focus on you and your up coming marriage to him rather than the feeling of his ex! You are the future and she is the past... Let it be just that.
2007-04-01 12:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by Susan Goodknight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems too attached/concerned about his ex-wife. After 7 years, she shouldn't even be an after thought, much less a consideration. If her hasn't put his past behind him, this could be a clue that he's not ready to live in the present with you.
2007-04-06 22:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is holding on to the past and for some god damn reason, I think you better ask him straight out why and who and what??? after 7 years you think he would have moved on - but obviously he hasnt, mmmm something going on there, his reasoning is bullsh!t to me - thats not a good excuse for not letting go of ex wife and too afraid to tell her about you. I think he is still getting his rocks off with her, give him an ultimatum her or me!!!! good luck
2007-04-01 12:00:35 · answer #5 · answered by boonoora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is the one with the emotional issues, not his ex.
His ex and her happiness is not his responsibility. And why would they still be on speaking terms after 7 years?
Sounds like he's still in love with her.
2007-04-01 12:09:14 · answer #6 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what makes either of you think you need to inform his ex of anything, let alone details of your guy's personal. Somewhere or someone is making a mountain out of absolutely nothing. Regardless of how you might think she will react to the news, she has no other choice then be happy for him. End of story.
2007-04-01 12:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there are reasons for everything- his- sounds like he has some commitment issues- frail- don't think so- or she'd be in the loony bin. All cards need to be place on the table and call a spade a spade.
2007-04-01 12:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he have to tell her anything? Why is he even worried about her/talking to her? There are no children. You need to nip this in the bud.
2007-04-01 12:03:33 · answer #9 · answered by buebla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and he's your fiance????? I wouldn't marry him......and you sound pretty young yourself...perhaps you shouldn't be thinking of getting married at all right now.
2007-04-01 11:59:44 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋