My father wants everyone's opinion on this.
Last September he married some puerto rician chick and 2 months later she took off for Florida, only giving him one weeks notice.
So he followed her down to Florida and a week later she left for Puerto Rico, giving him only a few days notice. So he came back to WI to visit while my sister had her surgery.
Now he met a woman from Monroe who wants him to come eat dinner at her house. He plans to go eat dinner since she made a home made meal.
So is he cheating on his wife? Why or why not?
2007-04-01 10:47:17 · 22 answers · asked by ♫Hope♫ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not much of a wife if you ask me.
She obviously thought nothing of the marriage if after 2 months she takes off and leaves him, so he can follow her all over the globe like a puppy.
If that's how little she thinks of the marriage, why should he put more value on it?
Tell him to go to dinner and have some fun and then look into an anulment of the marriage.
If that isn't possible, he needs to divorce her before she is entitled to half of everything he has.
2007-04-01 10:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by Mr R 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The best definition of cheating I've ever heard is this "If you wouldn't do it with your partner's knowledge because you know it would hurt or upset them, and you choose to do it anyway, and in secret, then you are in essence cheating".
If you choose to take what your partner has the right - through being in a relationship - to know and deny them that, then you are cheating.
If you give to another person the things that your partner should have the exclusive to:- intimate conversations, sexual exclusivity, privacy in details of your relationship, access to your time above others, then you are cheating.
Some people believe that you don't cheat until you leave, or your having sex with someone, but cheating starts with the thought that you deserve to have something that your partner is unaware of, that you can and should have something that he/she isn't allowed to share.
If you want to know if its cheating ask yourself these questions (and answer honestly)
1. Would my partner mind if I did this?
2. Would I do the same things, talk the same way, if my parnter was there with me?
3. What is it I expect from this situation, or this other person?
The answer to these questions would give you the insight as to whether its cheating or not.
From experience I know cheating hurts. It hurts the ones cheated on, it hurts the relationship, and it hurts the person cheating, and the one being cheated with. A no-win situation.
And the hurting takes a long time to heal.
So take care and think! Hope this helps, B
2007-04-01 11:37:32 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolutely NOT. Listen 'father' -- you could always call it friendship - going over to a friend's for dinner. nothing wrong with that whatsoever. Maybe the puerto rican chick is having dinner right now with her 'special friend.' How would you know this? Finish up with the spouse, after all you did marry her. So it didn't work out, so what? Move on!
2007-04-01 10:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by Virgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all he is doing is having dinner with a friend who happens to be female, no it is not cheating. If he is involved with this woman, but has intentions of staying with his wife then yes, it is cheating. His wife took off, he needs to divorce her and tie up the loose ends on that relationship so he can go on with his life.
2007-04-01 10:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by Starshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont believe so because there is no actual sexual relations going on. No kissing, having sex, or anything else. If inviting someone over for dinner constitutes for cheating then I am a cheater. If your father thinks that things are gonna go further then he should contact a good lawyer and move on if he doesnt think she is coming back.
2007-04-01 10:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is this woman and what is her intention? I think if he's married, irregardless of what happened, he needs to get the marriage annuled or either divorce. Obviously if he's seeking attention/affection elsewhere, there isnt much left worth working on. Otherwise, you'll have to fill us in on more detail. Hope he can work this out.
2007-04-01 10:53:47 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having dinner is not cheating.. sounds like the wife is trying to leave him.. hes free to do whatever he wants as long as she is trying to get away from him..she needs to stay with him of leave him and quit all this running away from him.. what is her problem anyway, shes bouncing all over the map and hes supposed to wait on her at home all alone and lonesome? he should do what ever he wants.. cheating is having a sexual affair with someone while suppose to be happily married.and yes oral sex is still sex...
2007-04-01 10:52:42 · answer #7 · answered by road runner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My definition of cheating is doing something that you cant do in front of your spouse. HOWEVER, I think she (your dads wife) kinda gave up her right on that whole thing. Go for it DAD! Shes not being fair, you deserve a home cooked meal from a woman who wants to cook for you.
2007-04-01 10:54:20 · answer #8 · answered by THE mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically, having any romantic contact while married can be considered cheating. Keeping yourself only for her, doesn't just mean sex.
If she's abandoned him, he should begin ending the marriage.
If she is just visiting PR, then he should contact her and find out what's up.
2007-04-01 10:53:42 · answer #9 · answered by Carol D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a wierd relationship. How does she feel about it? Cheating to me is when you have romantic intentions with someone other than the one you are committed to.
2007-04-01 10:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by margherita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋