How to tell Husband?

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How to tell Husband?
How do I tell my husband that sex sucks? He is a big guy, so its hard for him to manuvere ever which a way. I Just dont enjoy it at all. HELP!

Well I wouldnt come right out with it. We have had this talk before about 3 years ago, I kinda sorta told him I really just never had an orgasm with him before, well really with any of my past partners, so I just thought it was me. But I told him ways that I could get there, which for me is foreplay...but he never wants to do anything for me. Its all about him. And that frustrates me to no end. So now I really just dont even look forward to it. Like we are trying to have a baby, and let me tell you, its really hard..and theres just no spark. When he wants to get all his but not do anything for me. He says "that thing" my down there area, he just doesnt like anything about it...and he point blank tells me, so why can't I point blank tell hiim you know? I mean he won't just rub down there without a squeamish look on his face, and there is nothing wrong with me, so dont think that...lets just say I get more excitement from my vibrator than my own husband, and I hate that.

Its usually the only way he likes it, is doggy-style cause basically he has to do no work. When we do it missionary, he just is all over the place cause he cant hold himself up, and when I am on top, it just hurts for me cause I have a tilted uterus, so I guess its in a position where it feels like you are just hitting a wall. So now, what do you think I should do now?

Answer 1

After he's done get the vibrator out in front of him and please yourself. He'll get the message. I've never known a man who didn't like anything about the area you're talking about, I'm really sorry. You deserve better.

Answer 2

I think you should NOT have children until you feel better about your relationship and your husband.

Children (wonderful though they are) are a very large strain on a relationship. If there are any cracks, the stress of having a child will split them wide open if you are both not 100% into the relationship. Children are very hard work - not the labor - that is the easy part. The endless nights of very little sleep are the hardest part.

I'm worried about your husband. He sounds very selfish, which is not a good quality for either a father or husband.

I know it is hard to do; but talk to him about it. If he just can't bring himself to enjoy your pleasure (like most men do) then perhaps he is not the right man for you. If you don't mind getting any sexual pleasure out of your relationship then go ahead and stay with him. That can be a lonely road being in a relationship when you don't feel loved.

Again, do NOT think that having a child will magically bring you together.

Answer 3

I would suggest not having and kids.....you need to take a look at what the future holds for you, and ask yourself this question......do you want to live a sex life like this for the rest of your life? I seriously doubt it....You need to give your marriage a long hard look b4 bringing children into the situation....because children do not make a marriage better....they are just extra lives that will be hurt by a divorce.

Answer 4

I'd hate to sound like Dr Phil but he sounds selfish. I'd be willing to bet that sex isn't the only thing he is selfish about. I don't know what to tell you other than that. I can tell you how I feel. I personally think vaginas are gross too. When I get in to mood, I just seem to forget about it. I want my wife to enjoy it too. Her pleasure is more important than mine. I'll try to put this as tactfully as possible. She doesn't do anything that I don't reciprocate. Good luck.

Answer 5

he's not stupid, I bet. He knows, he just doesnt' want to face his own hang-ups. Start refusing him sex and use your vibrator instead. You'll be more satisfied, he is left to deal with his problems on his own and eventually he'll have to do something.

oh and no offense but if he is so squeamish about your beloved parts then he's really got "ISSUES" and needs to face that. his issues are more important to him than making you happy? That's some selfishness right there.

keep pleasing yourself and give up on him. He'll figure it out.

Answer 6

if sex no good and he don't get it even you told him then dump him or you will not be happy. Why you want him for? you can do better than, they are many man out here like to give you all the pleasure you long for.

Answer 7

If you don't want to leave him, and he has some kinda hangup about touching you, stop having sex with him all together.
why put yourself through all of that and still get no satisfaction.

See if Menard's has a sale on batteries and stock up.

Answer 8

Yuk lady, do yourself a favour and get a regular stud to service you, theres plenty out there
Then just ignore your sexless selfish hubby

Answer 9

stop trying to have a baby!
dont bring kids in on this!
you need to go to marriage therapy... he doesnt like your vagina, and he has no idea what a penis is for

Answer 10

Tell him, he might not be so happy as well and you both could sign up for counseling.

Best of luck.