How do I tell my husband that sex sucks? He is a big guy, so its hard for him to manuvere ever which a way. I Just dont enjoy it at all. HELP!
2007-04-01 10:13:46 · 5 answers · asked by Just Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well I wouldnt come right out with it. We have had this talk before about 3 years ago, I kinda sorta told him I really just never had an orgasm with him before, well really with any of my past partners, so I just thought it was me. But I told him ways that I could get there, which for me is foreplay...but he never wants to do anything for me. Its all about him. And that frustrates me to no end. So now I really just dont even look forward to it. Like we are trying to have a baby, and let me tell you, its really hard..and theres just no spark. When he wants to get all his but not do anything for me. He says "that thing" my down there area, he just doesnt like anything about it...and he point blank tells me, so why can't I point blank tell hiim you know? I mean he won't just rub down there without a squeamish look on his face, and there is nothing wrong with me, so dont think that...lets just say I get more excitement from my vibrator than my own husband, and I hate that.
2007-04-01 10:36:39 · update #1
Its usually the only way he likes it, is doggy-style cause basically he has to do no work. When we do it missionary, he just is all over the place cause he cant hold himself up, and when I am on top, it just hurts for me cause I have a tilted uterus, so I guess its in a position where it feels like you are just hitting a wall. So now, what do you think I should do now?
2007-04-01 10:38:35 · update #2
In Reference to COMMON's answer:
I am not one of those that Sex is the most important aspect of the relationship, but I do like it, and I do love my husband, I just dont know what to do. He does take it wrong everytime I have said something. Like even just now, he saw my face and was like you arent enjoying this...I was like why do you say that, he says by your facial expressions. Im like just do it...(so theres something wrong there) ha!! I just want to get it over with instead of trying to be able to enjoy it.
2007-04-01 10:51:52 · update #3
NEVER tell a man sex sucks with him!!!!! You'll crush his ego and ruin any future self confidence (and possibly hard ons!)!Get him on his back, tell him not to move ONE MUSCLE and get the job done!!! You'll be satisfied and he'll be mesmarized!!!!!
2007-04-01 10:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by swiss girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I certainly wouldn't be that blunt about it. This issue is hard for a guy to hear so be easy on him. Tell him that you'd like to try it a different way for a change and come up with a way you think will work for you. Talk to him in a loving, playful way and it should be fine. You shouldn't continue to be miserable in the bedroom so talk about it and try out something new soon. How about tonight?
2007-04-01 10:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about joining a gym and working out with him so he looses some of the weight feeding him healthier foods ,in causual conversation mention that you heard on the radio that for every ten lbs a man looses he gains an inch in penis.that might motivate him.
2007-04-01 10:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by windwalker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't tell him when you are in bed. This will demoralize him and backfire in the end. A man who isn't confident will not please his partner.
As for how to bring it up? I wish I could tell you. That is a difficult one. Good luck.
2007-04-01 10:19:39 · answer #4 · answered by Giselle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you love him but your sex life is not satisfactory
or acceptable...He either needs to make more of an effort
or you need to start thinking about a divorce..
2007-04-01 10:47:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋