my sons mom hasnt called to check on him in over a month. she recently told my mother and i that she didnt want to hear from us at all. and has given up. she knows we were in childerens hospital to have his heart examined. hes not even two. it was very hard on me. lucky my mom was there and a very special friend to help me get through it. she hasnt called for the results. so my question is do i call her and tell her for now hes ok but he has to be seen every two years. or do i just say to helll with her and not call cause she said she doesnt care.
2007-04-01 09:50:20 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If the wench gave a rats behind about that beautiful baby boy, she would have 1...been there or 2 called to find out if he was ok....Dont call her...if she wants to know she will call but since its been over a week I doubt she will.... she gave up on him now its your turn to give up on her.
2007-04-01 16:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by nease174 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is just my opinion remember. I would call your sons' mom. Even if she does is not involved in his life, you really seem to be a wonderful man and father. I have alot of respect for you. Why I am saying that is because if you don't you will have that question in your mind for a long time. Even if she doesn't care, it will help you. I also think it is aweful that she does not want to be involved with her son. He has her blood in him as well as yours. I am a mom of a beautiful 4 year old daughter and separated for horrible reasons. He stabbed me infront of her and much more. I know what most are thinking, I couldn't leave because when I tried he would find me no matter what I did and when he dragged me home it was just much worse on me. I cannot let him be involved with her due to some of the items I found in the house after I made him leave. It involved young girls and such. I had my daughter looked over and thank God nothing had happened. I was stupid and will forever feel horrible for that. You are a great father, and I am sure you will make the best decision no matter which it is. I wish you all the luck and will have you and your son and his mother in my prayers. If you need to talk about anything you can e-mail me. I am always home I am in a wheelchair at the moment kind of limits me just wanting to get out lol. Good luck hun, in all you do.
2007-04-01 17:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by angeleyes818 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Cali Cowboy,
it's very easy for me to sit here, in a chair, and justify to you to NOT call the mother. However, she has stated her point that she doesn't want to hear from you. That said, I would recommend that you do call her - even if it means just leaving a message - and inform her of the results. Keep it brief and to the point. I can only speculate that she will have regrets later, and may possibly seek to make ammends with you over this personal choice that is rather catastrophic and devastating.
You are quite the man for doing what a father should in light of the health issue and loss in a personal relationship. "Hats off to you" - your son is in terrific hands. Your proving your responsibility to your sons immediate need. At some point in the future he will likely have questions about his mother - for now the diligent thing to do is to keep her posted - no other responsibility exists. Easier said than done, and I for one would not fault you if you chose another path.
2007-04-01 17:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by Gerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cannot tell you to call her or not... That would be inappropriate, I can only say to follow your heart... I can only imagine how hurt is makes you feel and to go it alone. A child at the age of two is hard enough. To have worry over his heart is devastating. I am happy you at least had your mom there for you.
I hope you can focus more widely just on you and him.. Bond with him as you are and show him what good daddy's are made of... You sound like a wonderful and loving daddy... And she may be his mother. But a mommy is someone who is there at every second of his life... I am guessing you will eventually find that person as you seem to be a very good hearted person... Be strong, and when you least expect it, someone will walk into your life and his as well... Love him everyday.... And have fun with him. They grow so fast... MY heart goes out to you... â¥
2007-04-01 18:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's terrible. I can't imagine a mother that doesn't want to hear news about her child or see her child. I wouldn't leave my child at 2 yrs old for even a day. She must have some major issues/problems. As sad is it is, maybe your child is better off without her. If she doesn't want to see him or care about him, then he will eventually sense it if/when he sees her. Maybe it's better that he doesn't have to be confronted with this at such an early age. I don't know what your marital status is now, but it seems maybe your child would eventually be better off with a loving stepmother. I know many women/men raise adopted stepchildren as their own and raise happy/well-adjusted children. However, what's most important is that he be surrounded by other people that love him and it sounds like you & your mother are doing a great job trying to protect/care for him. Good luck to you & God bless.
2007-04-01 17:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by Amy27 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would call her and tell her the results. In doing this you are reminding her in a subtle way that she does have a son. She may not care, and you may not be able to make her care, but she does need reminding that she has certain responsibilities that cant just be switched off when she feels like it.
2007-04-01 17:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether she cares or not about her son, one day her son will care about her. If you absolutely know that she will never be a part of his life again then maybe it is not worth telling her, but if she will be a part of his life then one day she might wake up and regret the past and your sons relationship with his mother will be there for him. That is something that anyone would miss if it isn't there but if you keep in contact then maybe one day he can have that. I wouldn't push him on her or force anything but keep the lines of communication open if it doesn't hurt him in any way.
2007-04-01 17:02:56 · answer #7 · answered by The Dakota Kid 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man. I'm really sorry about Your son. I'll definitely pray for him. So I think that you should call her. Just call her now and again so that she knows how her baby is doing even though shes wantst o have nothing to do with him just do it to be a good dad!
2007-04-01 17:16:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say go ahead and call her.
Without knowing your ex, I can't say for certain...but it sounds to me like she is so afraid of losing her son, she defensively cut herself off from him to protect her own heart! I am not saying I at ALL agree with her actions, but you may find she will come to her senses if you do call and give her the test results.
Good for you for being such a loving father.
2007-04-01 16:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by western b 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave her out of it and be thee for your son.He needs you right now and Mom will only mess with him more. If she cared for the child she would of been there and nothing in this world would of stopped her from being there. She is what I call a sorry azz person who deserves nothing from you or your son.
2007-04-01 16:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋