my ex has a girlfriend and they seem to be happy with her. i really care about him and i really want to get back together with him. but there is two things that are stopping me from doing that. his current girlfriend. and another ex. his other ex played with his heart to much and he still cares about her and his current girlfriend. what do i do?any answers welcome
2007-04-01 09:17:23 · 10 answers · asked by shorty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey, I know it hurts and believe me, I am talking from experience, I had a really good relationship at first with this one guy, then he turned out to be a jerk, and I did not want to date him anymore, we got in so many arguments and then I finally decided to break up with him, he was just not right and he was getting worse.
After we broke up I went through these "times" of missing him, wondering about him, wondering if he was dating someone else, and just having all of these "feelings" like I wanted him back, I needed closure.
Before I got closure, I kept myself busy with my family, friends, and meeting the best guy of my life, I never gave up on love and I just let it come to me!!! Now I am more happier than I ever was with the guy I first told you about.
My closure point came when I was getting my tires rotated on my car and in walks my ex!!!! And a little boy was with him, and I overheard him talking to the man at the counter that his "son" will be four in April this month. And I put two and two together, the whole time we were dating and the whole time he was accusing me of cheating on him, he got another woman pregnant, you see it has been four years this month since we broke up!!!!!
I thought many thoughts, and counted my blessings on who I have now in my life, my wonderful husband, I did not say a word, why waste my breath? He came up to me like he wanted to say something, but I just kept on "reading a magazine", and then I got up and went into another waiting room to wait on my car! Then I just kept on walking by him and not saying a word, he got so upset, that he walked out!!!
It takes a long time, but give yourself time to heal and "focus" on other men!!!!! You deserve the best! And in time, you will realize that things happen for a reason, and that your "romeo" will come.
You have to heal first.
2007-04-01 09:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy for him. If you love him, you will be happy if he has found a nice person he can be happy with. Relationships can't all last forever, but friendships can. If things are meant to work out between you they will, but it could take a long time before you're both on the same page and ready to try again, or it may not happen at all. Either way, like I said, be happy that he's happy. Then you can move on or give it another shot with him without scaring him off.
2007-04-01 09:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by SomeGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a girlfriend, he is OFF limits. If you two are meant to be, he'll be back...but NOT by some plot or scheme that you cook up. It will happen naturally.
In the meantime, start dating. You need to get your mind off of him and not focus on him so much. Spend more time with friends, go out with other people. Who knows, you may meet someone in the process that you really like.
2007-04-01 09:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by ღ†Rocker Wife†ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hobbie to keep your mind off of him. It's so many other things you could be doing instead of thinking of him. So what he has another girl. Go out get your hair and nails done and go shopping, show yourself a good time. You will feel a whole better. I have been there it's not a pretty site. You never know he might see you differently hold your head up high. Has he ever told he wanted to see you in something but it was'nt your style? Go out and get it. you might get him back. This worked for me. Good luck.
2007-04-01 09:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by Fashay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just gave two good reasons why you should forget about him. I think you should listen to your heart, this guy likes a lot of girls. If you think there is a chance you both can get back together then there is a chance they will too.
2007-04-01 09:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it's hard to digest the fact of being dumped or to dump a person. Live is great and going on. If you think of going back to him..... than remember 1 thing.......
IF YOU REALLY THINK OF GETTING OR ACHIEVING SOMETIHG, THAN JUST GO AND GET IT.
Don't think of How's and When's. All you have to do is., Trust in yourself and believe in the 4 letter word called LOVE.
2007-04-01 09:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by raj k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is probably not going to happen again. if you two were ment to be together it will happen, but trying to break up this girls, and his, happiness is horrible. dating again and having time with your friends will eventually ease your heart.
2007-04-01 09:21:47 · answer #7 · answered by cleo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you get over him knowing that someone out there is inlove with you so go out and find him....and stop think abt ur ex.
2007-04-01 09:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to start dating again. it will eventually happen for you. good luck.
2007-04-01 09:19:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just get another boo and get over it
2007-04-01 09:20:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋