why are some people so mean and careless? last night i found out who my real friends were, i had my sweet 16 party and i invited 20 of my real good friends, only 8 showed up, and the others didnt even call to tell me that they arent coming, i had to call them myself and the only excuse they gave was " ya im busy", whats wrong with them? i spent $500 on the restuarant and $100 to decorate my house to make it look like a night club, i also spent 6 hours on making invitations! why did they not even care to come?
2007-04-01 09:04:26 · 18 answers · asked by californiadudette1991 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
As you said, you learned who your real friends are. If the other people had legitimate plans already or something they could not get out of (like their parents decided they had to do something) they would have at least called and told you if they valued your feelings. Friends don't suck, the people who are really your friends were there, they showed up to help you celebrate. Be thankful for them.
2007-04-01 09:15:48 · answer #1 · answered by Starshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you answered your own question. Unless this was a last minute decision to have a party (and I'm guessing it's not since you had a restaurant reserved and all), you found out exactly who your friends were.
The next day at school may be hard also, but just hold your head up high and enjoy the friends that did come and drop the other friends. Don't talk about them or anything. If they feel the need to talk about you, that is their problem. Look at this way, if you are all they can talk about, then you must be so important in their minds that they can't stop talking about you. Just look them in the eyes for a second if you catch them talking about you, then just walk away. They will get the point. Let them come to you if they choose. You are much better off w/o them right now.
Good luck!
2007-04-01 16:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when v make all new friends, at dat itme v have no idea which is our real & close friend but as time goes on later v realize their habits which doesnt match with us.i know how painful it is when u care for ur friend & in return if he/she doesnt care for u.u knw it is very painful wen ur friend starts ignoring & avoiding u.but this is the right time when u will know that who is ur real caring best friend .because as there is a great saying that "a friend in need is a friend in deed"when such thing happen then instead of getting angry and frustrated u should thank god for u will have true friends forever coz the one's who r not ur true friends will be separated.i hope u understood what i'm trying to tell u .so just be cool & make them realise that u r very happy without them and enjoying with ur other friends .this will surely work out.
2007-04-01 18:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by khatija r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with time you will realize that from the 20..only 1 or 2 are your real friends. you sound pretty young so when you get to college you'll realize that having 20 friends is not necessarily the best thing because they'll end up hurting you somehow. i suggest pick a couple of real good ones from the 8 that did show up and get to know them better and hopefully they'll be lasting friends!!
it sucks to get hurt by people you consider your friends...:(
2007-04-01 16:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by Peqo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think it was necessary to spend $500 on a sweet 16 party. Boy, are my kids going to hate me because I sure won't be doing that for them. So I'll be telling them what I'm going to tell you....get over yourself!
Did you brag about all the money that was spent and about the restaurant, pretend club, and invitations before your party?
Perhaps they got sick of hearing about it or didn't like your attitude.
2007-04-01 16:12:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Simple !
You only have 8, instead of 20 !
The other 12 stayed under the rocks,
they call home !
2007-04-01 16:11:35 · answer #6 · answered by Fudge S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are just mean Happy birthday by the way but yea sorry to hear that but really get done to the bottom of it ask your friends what really happened ask them to be honest with you and not lie and if some say there were grounded or had to work then undertsnad but if some say i went out with my bf or something like that there in the wrong and they dont deserve to be your friend
2007-04-01 16:09:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jacqueline 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have had them RSVP to insure they would come. Anyway, you have learned an invaluable lesson. People who are sometimes friendly towards you or just hang in a group are not necessarily friends. That's a whole 'nother thing. Great revelation!
2007-04-01 16:13:06 · answer #8 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are mean like that.......but the 8 that came, u should know that they are probably the best ones u have.........hope everything works out........don't be mad at them, just don't go to their sweet 16 parties either. good luck!
2007-04-01 16:10:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man i hear u but inl ife not everyones is going to like u,last year i spent my b day by myself none of my friends came bro i hated it imagine sitting at redlobster for 1 hour and a half and no one showing up yeah it sucks
2007-04-01 16:08:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋