a friend of mine and i both like guys that are alot older then us and we both have dates with then next saturday, but we arent experienced ... so my friend suggested that we should mess around with each other so we wouldnt look stupid, like not knowing how to kiss or how to act when a guy touches you, stuff like that. so my friend and i made out and put our hands up each others shirts and touched each other "down there" over our panties. now it seems like my friend is more interested in spending time with me then going out with the guy she was crushing on. what should i do?
2007-04-01 08:52:12 · 13 answers · asked by Manda P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
no, i'm not bi!! and i didn't think that she was either. i was just trying to "practice"...
2007-04-01 08:58:17 · update #1
The fact that you feel embarrassed about this whole thing tells me that you feel like something about the making out with your girlfriend was wrong. Can you identify which part or parts?
Talk to your friend and tell her the incident spooked you. Watch for her reaction. She may play around and act like it was nothing. In that case, be assertive and confident when you say that To You it was more than just "nothing." Or, she may confess to you that it was also weird for her.
I think you know how to handle it from there.
One more thought: by Saturday if you still haven't resolved this dilemma, please reschedule your date. You really don't deserve to be hanging around people who don't have your best interests in mind. Besides, once you add a guy to the equation, you may transfer your embarrassing feelings on to him and unconsciously retraumatize yourself.
Take care of your self FIRST.
Good luck and G-d Bless!
2007-04-01 09:04:27 · answer #1 · answered by El Pajaro Loco 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to worry about. What she's feeling is a fairly common occurrence among young ladies who are inexperienced in the art of pleasure. When you two started messing around, she felt something really good, something different. Tell her the date next Saturday MUST happen - tell her she's in for better pleasures - your little experimentation is nothing compared to the real thing. Meanwhile, stop the games and keep your hands to yourselves.
Have fun with your dates...oh keep it clean for starters.
2007-04-01 09:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by Inday 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to be experience to go out on a date. Just don't let the guy talk you into anything you don't want to do. For the girl. If you don't want to be with her,be honesty with her and tell her you still like guys.
2007-04-01 09:01:05 · answer #3 · answered by floralgirl1960 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea, well it sounded pretty gay before I even read the last part. Your friend is interested in you and the rest of that cockamamie story was to get in your pants.
2007-04-01 08:55:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
holy cow...well 1st it sounds like your young. & you really shouldn't do anything your not ready for. (with anyone) she probably seems like she is into you because she is new at this too. it probably did excite her, & because your friends it was probably comfortable for her. (people like comfort) personally if you are young I don't think you should be doing this w/ any man, especially an older on...think of the worst situation....STD's, pregancy before ready..etc... pls think b/4 you do anything!
2007-04-01 09:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by mama of 4+extras? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend is a lesbian. And I would not make out with a girl so maybe you are one too.
2007-04-01 08:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by NickyO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just keep that thought in mind, then your friend won't know how you feel. Just tell her. She's your FRIEND. She'll understand.
Hope it helps!! ^^
2007-04-01 09:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speak with your friend openly and honestly.
2007-04-01 08:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by ~j~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweet
2007-04-01 08:56:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do her! Great idea!
2007-04-01 08:58:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋