A day before valentines day in February we got into an argument. She avoided me throughout Vals day, and 2 days after she called to tell me with finality that the marriage is over. I know she has another man - a very rich man- in her life, but we have 4 young children (ages 3-11). She has engaged a lawyer, with the help of her new man, i believe. I have told her that a few years down the line, she will be worse off and in deep regret. Winning her back is an uphill task, but i want us back together. Please help me with a workable strategy.
2007-04-01 08:47:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well i personally went threw the same thing as you...Sometimes its not worth getting back together because she will do the same thing all over again...I knw its very hard the first year and then it just gets easier...You dont want to deal with a headach for the rest of your life...There alot of women out there
2007-04-01 09:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by Pelon69 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My worthless ex husband did this very thing to me...it was a mind blower...we were together 20 years..NO kids.
He got to age 50 and flipped out.
It has been 3 years. If I would have let go way back...I would be in lot better shape today.
Let her go. You can thank God......... because she is a snake.
Just walk away...she will get whats coming to her.
I am sorry honey for the pain that you and your children are having to endure...because of someone with no heart.
2007-04-01 16:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by Bobbie4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to find out (if at all possible without making her angry) why it is she decided to find someone else...I don't think that one argument is what made her leave.
Could be many things, she is unhappy with you, life in general, finances, etc etc or it could be something far easier she doesn't see as being fixable.
I would suggest you going to see a counselor/therapist for yourself, only to have someone outside the situation perhaps giving you advice on how best to handle her and to show her you still love her. Also to help you heal and move on if it is not going to work out.
Good luck. It's going to be tough.
2007-04-01 16:22:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a worthless gold digger man forget her. She's garbage and no good for you or the children. It sucks that the legal system favors the fleamale in almost every situation but you may get the opportunity to get custody. Why? Well people like her are careless and make stupid mistakes. Your time will come...
If your really smart you could rub her out and that would end that.
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2007-04-01 15:57:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm being serious as a former married man with a family, whose wife ran off with someone else.
It takes two to tango and she wants someone else.
She doesn't want you, Give it up. In one year, you will feel much better about yourself and be rd of them both.
2007-04-01 15:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this point, it doesn't sound as if there is one....perhaps she would consider counseling for the sake of the children..then you might have a chance...but sorry to say, I think your chances are slim...good luck
2007-04-01 15:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it don't fit don't force it. You're looking for a miracle. I know it hurts now, but one day the pain will end. Love your children.
2007-04-01 15:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is if she doesn't want you you should not try to get her back she will just resent you. You may be right that she will be sorry but she will have to figure that our for herself. I'm sorry about your situation.
2007-04-01 16:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has moved on I think you save yourself a lot of heart ache by just moving on yourself.
2007-04-01 15:55:49 · answer #9 · answered by Marie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget her. She sounds evil.
Step one could be learning how to speak and spell properly so you sound smarter.
2007-04-01 15:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋