what hapened?

Question

is she stressing?we havent had any sex for abut a month.i cant even touch her.. to make my moves.. she says no.

is she cheating on me?she says that we can live with out sex.. sex isnot that important

should i leave her? i hate to assume anything..we used to hold hands, b real close... she stress about money..tho?,.. what should i do?

no cheating at all from her or me... just curious on what is her deal... and what i can do?

Answer 1

if this is a sudden change then maybe she is having a physical or emotional problem...give her a little time and space, it may work itself out...if it doesn't then you will need to have a discussion to figure out the problem...good luck

Answer 2

I don't think that stressing or money worries is the primary reason, although either of those could contribute. This happened to my wife right after our first born. From that time forward, she said exactly the same thing - "sex just isn't important to me anymore".

Of course, the question is, so what am I supposed to do with that? If sex is really important to you, you'll need to have some very long talks in which you mostly LISTEN, not argue or be defensive. If you can't work out a mutually satisfactory arrangement, you'll have to take this to counseling. Ultimately, both of you will have to decide just how important you are to each other and if you can live with this unfortunate development.

Of course, there may be something organically wrong. People - men and women - go through all sorts of weird hormonal changes through life. This may be temporary. I'd give it another month. If she is still unable or unwilling to be sexually involved with you, I would suggest that she see her doctor and maybe an endocrinologist. Anyone who has a sudden loss of libido could have a medical problem.

But, understand that some women just don't find sex necessary or even desirable. It happens to men, too.

Good luck. Remember, true love conquers all.

Answer 3

Are you two married and how old are both of you?

Why don't you just ask her if she is cheating on you? So that way you can just move on with your life.

If you two are just boyfriend and girlfriend and if she is treating you this way, then you have the right not to be treated like that. It seems like she has something else in mind and doesn't care about your needs in the relationship. I don't think this is the kind of person to be married to if she can't open up to you about her problems. These are some red flags to be aware of.

Plus, ask yourself this question. "Is this the type of woman you want to marry?"

Answer 4

I don't care what her "excuse" is she does not have the right to withhold sex AFTER marriage unless she is dying or something...I mean I would not fall for the I am stressed thing. As long as you have not done anything to betray her trust and you continue to be a supportive and kind husband, she should be just as intimate and suppotive as she was previously.

Answer 5

do you have any children? she maybe tired and feeling low because she has so much to do? Try and make her feel wanted and woe her. cook her a meal and then wash up for her, run her a bath and give her time to relax. take the time to ask her whats wrong and try to make things better. good luck

Answer 6

Talk to her. Ask her why. If she is upset that could be the reason.

Answer 7

well it all depends is she pregnant?cheating on you?you cheating on her in the past?do you piss her off?why dont you ask her?

Answer 8

She has to be going elsewhere. Sorry

Answer 9

she's getting it somewhere else!