She was the reason we almost got divorced. I want her out of his life completely. She has alot of nerve going t o him , especially when there are alot of other drs. out there. My husband says she is just a patient and wont show her the door. What should i do. Her husband thinks they are just old family friends. Doesnt know they were a couple in the past. Help some advise,should i tell him the truth but i dont want to make trouble for them they have a child. But hell she made my life a living hell. Anyone please advise.
2007-04-01 07:56:32 · 28 answers · asked by U2 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let me add we were married with a newborn, she knew what she was doing. (she was not) .She intentually came to my hubby just to irk me when she got preg.She married a dr. Thats what she was after I guess. I really feel hate for her she has hurt me bad and want to hurt her back, Should I go ahead and tell her hsbnd. and sit back and enjoy.? And I am thinking its time for me to leave this marriagem its cruel what my husbd. did to me. Thanks for reading.
2007-04-05 18:43:18 · update #1
Yeah tell him either he quits being her Dr or you will quit being his wife!
2007-04-06 10:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by Pixie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to look at your husband rather then the old g/f
He is the one who made a vow to you not her. He is the one to have a no contact with her with out you on his back. Also he could have refereed her to another doctor. Keep the blame where it should be with him not her. As if it was not her it would be another woman. Your husband needs to respect, earn back your trust and value his marriage and if he loves you and nothing is going on then there should be no reason as to why he can not honor your request .He is not the only doctor. If you tell her husband you will be made out to be a nut and trouble maker keep this in your own house.
2007-04-05 10:35:19 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The life of a dr's wife is never easy. There are so many legal issues that could arise if he turned her away. Cat would definitely be out of the bag then. Your situation is very tough. Ask to be in the room as one of his assistance. They require someone to be in the room any way. Wouldn't that just burn her up.
2007-04-01 16:22:38 · answer #3 · answered by sweet 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a major factor in the success of any relationship. Please try and explain to your husband how it makes you feel. Work ethics cannot mean more to him than the emotional well being of his wife. What is telling her husband going to do? If she is that coniving she will have her bases covered. Dont stoop to the same level as her.
2007-04-07 15:46:54 · answer #4 · answered by Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F.U.C.K. THAT S.H.I.T.!!!!!! H.e.l.l. no, I don't play that! I would tell her husband and anyone else I could tell that know them. I would put my foot down to my husband and then reverse the situation to him. Ask him how would he like it if I went to see a gyno that was my ex. If he says he wouldn't find anything wrong with it, he's a freakin' liar. My bf doesn't even want me to go to somebody I don't know let alone someone I do know. I wouldn't even be surprised if they were having sex when they go in the room. I mean I know the nurse is there during the exam but after that she's gone. I wouldn't trust my husband and def not her. I would even show up one day at the office when she's there and make a scene. Honey sorry but you have got to do something drastic to let him and her know that you are serious. Do not let her take your man!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-01 15:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by misscancer10 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think your husband is being very foolish. If he really does not have any feelings for her then he needs to realise he is compromising his reputation and possibly jepardizing his practice. It only has to take one word from her, e.g....calling rape or being touched inappropriately for his life and reputation to be over. Whether it is true or not is irrelevant. He is putting himself in a very precarious situation.
He can show her the door for very good reasons. He can say to her that seeing her as a patient would be very unethical.
I would be very angry that your husband is forgetting about the hell this woman has caused in the past. If you feel as strongly about this as I suspect you do, maybe you just have to be tough with your husband and demand he stop seeing her, otherwise you will tell her husband what really went on in the past. I'm sure if her husband knew the truth he would not be allowing his wife to see your husband. He would insist she change doctors.
Good luck. You need to be firm on this one.
2007-04-01 15:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by rightio 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
As a doctor this should be unacceptable for him also. She could make his life miserable with a lawsuit saying he sexually molested her. Why would he take such a chance on his career. If it was my husband the first thing I would think of he still wants to be with her and this seems the only way he can. Well, it would appear she started making trouble for herself when she got involved with a married man plus her doctor. Do what you think is best, not what would make you feel better.
2007-04-01 15:37:55 · answer #7 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all you are making HER the sole blame for whatever her and your HUSBAND did to almost end your marriage. HE is as much at fault as she is. So what good is telling her husband going to do? SHE could not have made your life a living hell without the help of YOUR husband. So you're going to make her husband and child's lives living hells because YOUR HUSBAND phucked around?
2007-04-01 15:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
OMG can't believe your husband would except and old girlfriend as a patient. That is total unproffessional behaviour and says a lot about your husband.
No of it good..don't think the problem is this other woman...
Sorry but this man has all the signs of a complete jerk that should be shown the door.
2007-04-01 15:05:19 · answer #9 · answered by Fluffy Wisdom 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If you trust your guy then what are you worried about. And if you don't why are you still there. I really think you need to think about where you are yourself. Don't underestimate yourself. He is with you and not her for heavens sake. Give him time to prove himself first before you go jumping to conclusions. The past is past and he may be happy to leave it there. Give him a chance.
2007-04-06 05:42:41 · answer #10 · answered by ehmjt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋