What do you think?
i think spanking your kids when they are not listening to you is fine...........however i do think there is a limit.
2007-04-01 07:53:33 · 34 answers · asked by jasmine D 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Discipline or Abuse....it all depends on what you mean by spanking.
Some people swear up and down all they did was spank their child but when they go to school with welts and a black eye CLEARLY that wasn't just a "spanking".
I think it's okay to spank if and only if you are really spanking the child, not beating the child. In addition to knowing what a spanking is, the parent should know WHEN to spank. Spankings should only come when neccessary.
2007-04-01 12:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by kianni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spanking your kids is fine. There is a big difference in spanking a child and beating a child. When they're young you don't even have to spank them that hard. The world today is bad enough. If parents don't discipline their kids, later on as they get older they are going to think they can get away with anything. Yes talking to your kids is important but sometimes spanking is required.
2007-04-04 03:20:25 · answer #2 · answered by addie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ... i think it depends what case you are in. If you are in a normal everyday home and the kid does something wrong then yer give them a lil smack on the bum - you know but then if an abuser is hitting the child and in a court case etc uses the excuse that he/she was disiplining the child i think that is very wrong. I think that there should be a limited amount of force allowed to use because having a little smack every now and then really didnt do me any harm and probably made me a better person ! So yes i do think that there is a limit so i really have 2 opinions but overall i would probably have to say discipline !
2007-04-01 09:50:15 · answer #3 · answered by alainamorgan@hotmail.com m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a HUGE difference between spanking & beating a child up.
Personally I think spanking is needed when other discipline methods are not working.
My husbands 6 year old son is an absolute pain in the **** & when he gets told off or put on the naughty step he just laughs in his face! He has never ever been spanked & I believe he sometimes seriously needs it just to show that u mean whatu say & that u should listen & respect your elders.
I am 13 weeks pregnant with my first child & I know that when mine get to that 'naughty age', if they dont listen & I need to reinforce my authority, then they will be getting a tap around their ****!
As long as u dont hurt or put marks on your child, I think its fine, as most of the time all a spank does is shock your child & shows them who's boss (so to speak). They soon stop playing up then!
2007-04-01 08:03:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how it's implemented. Spankings should be a predictable discipline and it should be done without any anger. When someone just hits their kid to try to get them to behave, it is abuse. Emotionless swats on the but that are expected and given as discipline can be good. It's important that the child can predict what the consequences of the action is going to be. Just spanking without explanation and in anger does no good.
2007-04-01 08:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by Chris J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spanking is ok. Children need to be disciplined and need to know limitations on what they can and cannot do.
Certainly there is a limit. I'm tired of other people telling parents what those limits are. What is discipline to one is abuse to someone else.
2007-04-01 08:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by Donald S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think corporal punishment should only be used when a kid is in immediate danger or is putting someone else in immediate danger. This kind of punishment is usually the least effective kind--it is much better to reward positive behavior than to smack a kid for misbehaving.
I do think, however, that calling spanking "abuse" is too extreme. I got spanked on the butt as a kid and it was certainly not abuse. I just think there are better ways to deal with kids.
2007-04-01 07:59:43 · answer #7 · answered by N 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A spanking is fine, a beating is wrong. I don't think that children should ever be hit with an object, but a opened hand spanking on the rump when all else has failed is fine.
It should never be the first choice, but as a last result.
2007-04-01 08:01:32 · answer #8 · answered by angie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't spank my kids, I don't have to because I use other forms of punishment (taking pocket money, time out on the stairs etc) However, there have been occasions when they have just been far too naughty and my husband has spanked them but this has been about 3 times in 8 years.
I think the main issue is to do what works for you and your family, however there is a fine line, and I think that is easily crossed.
2007-04-01 07:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think there is a limit too. I do lightly pop my child if he is being very defiant and disobedient on purpose, and that's only if I don't have time to gently correct this behavior, or if it's a situation in which I need him to obey me immediately.
The walls here are paper thin, next door these people beat (and I do mean BEAT) their child. I can hear the blows, I can tell how they hit him/her, and how many times, and I can here the child screaming. I think that's way overboard. I should not be able to hear the actual blows through the wall. And it's just too many of them. And from all the yelling, I can tell that they were in the heat of anger.
I don't think that a child should ever be disciplined in the heat of anger.
2007-04-01 09:05:14 · answer #10 · answered by marcelswifeee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋