she had physical relations with a friend of mine. when i came to know, she answerd that she dose not get the love from me that she gets from him, after that she was sorry for that relation. so i forgived her. now she has has forgotten the past that i forgived her & tried to maintain our married life. but these days she is in contact with her older freinds thru mobile. when i ask her about that she dosn't replies. & her mother is supporting her in this case. i think so. nowadays she insists me to cut the relation with my family & go to start our individual house. so that she can live there without any restrictions in my absence,
2007-04-01 07:47:28 · 13 answers · asked by rahul1978 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Is there joy in a downed marriage? NO! You live your days away miserably and let someone else control you! I really hate divorces, but sounds good here. Living apart & still being married has to be the worst thing for the both of you. Sort out all of your financial issues & anything else, then get that monkey off your back. Someone does'nt care about the ant on your foot if they treat their husband or wife with infidelity & deceit! Marriage is a a wonderful thing & is upoosed to be like joining your lives together. I know when you think it about it like that the the addition of the x into the mix is truly disturbing.
Best wishes on your new life & wishes for freedom and renewal! Forgiveness is best served lightly! Love is best serverd with no boundries. Chose your mate to give constant LOVE, not constant forgiveness!
2007-04-01 07:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so where's your question? if you`re asking on what would or should you do, you dump her as soon as possible. Get divorce. She may and can do it again; cause she did it not only once. Once is enough, twice is too much. But! if you have a child/children, you look at the other side. Give your best to satisfy her. And explain her that for child`s sake; she must change.
2007-04-01 07:56:57 · answer #2 · answered by mei 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man! you have a really troubled life in this case. Not only you but all those Husbands who are devoted to thier partners will feel bad about this. Honesty is the best policy and so we do have to follow the same in our day to day life. I would suggest you to go to Nadi Jyotish and ask the reason of this adultry to them. I'm not joking and they will surely tell you one of your past life deeds which are coming to you in this way and they will tell you the remedy as well. If I'm not wrong in my perception of Indian culture no woman goes out of marriage until it is your own past life deed. Tell your wife sorry for what ever you have done in your past life and ask her to forgive you. As far as your mother in law is concerned simply stop talking to her and ignore any thing what ever your wife tells you about her suggestions. But for God sake never criticise any of your inlaws before your wife (it is a golden rule).
2007-04-01 07:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by Gaps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to leave you and live her life separately,you can't make her stay,I mean you could try and talk her into giving your marriage the effort and stick around to make it work,but if she is feeling the need to move on,you have to let her go.Know one wants to be in a relationship with someone who is overbearing and tries to force them to stay in a situation they no longer wish to be in.She has already made up her mind,if you love her at all,you will .let her grow and let her go,...peacefully...and maybe if done that way you might have a chance she will decide it was you she loved all along after all.however you can't force it on her so don't even try.
2007-04-01 08:00:08 · answer #4 · answered by FYIIM1KO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully once a cheat always a cheat. Time to either go to counseling or file for divorce/
2007-04-01 07:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what is your question? Sounds like y'all need counseling but beyond that, you didn't ask anything for us to reply to.
2007-04-01 07:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she doesn't want your family spying on her and telling you what she's doing behind your back. try couples counselling, and see where both your hearts lead you.
2007-04-01 07:51:48 · answer #7 · answered by bad guppy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude run now....or learn to like it when she cheats. you could always become swingers and trade wives with another couple. if that is unappealing to you, get out now.
2007-04-01 07:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by scott m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....only you can decide what to do...if you really believe that she is seeing other men then perhaps you should end the marriage...good luck
2007-04-01 07:50:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get rid of her!
she will continue to have sex with other men!
2007-04-01 07:53:14 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋