I have some issues with my girl and I try to bring them up to her in an open communicable way and she always retreats and doesnt want to deal with it like she thinks it will all go away. I have issues with her respect, being inconsiderate of my feelings and omissive behavior which hurts the trust. She never owns up to doing anything wrong and I cant ever get her to talk to me. We have been together for 9 months and these are supposed to be the golden times. My problem is recently I have gotten mean with my words because Ive been banging my head against a wall for so long. I suggest we get a little breathing space to not see each other as much and she says fine I want a fews days to myself and wouldnt even say she loves me and that this will show how much I trust her. The thing is that she is the one at fault and she admits she is now and she wants the break. So I give it to her and we are on day 3 and I cant stand it but I wont talk to her and she keeps sending me messages. Im waiting.
2007-04-01 07:23:04 · 4 answers · asked by 1authority 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im waiting until the few days are up because if she wants a few days she's going to get it and not string me along in the few days. How should I proceed when we start talking again or should I even talk to her at all. How can I break her of this and if she takes this break she will think its ok to just turn me on and off whenever she pleases and Im not that kind of person, I have to deal with the issue at hand and resolve it. What to do.
2007-04-01 07:25:01 · update #1
First and foremost, don't wait to talk to her. This is just employing the same game-playing tactics she is used to pulling on you. Be straight-forward, when I was younger I had a guy or two do this to me and open my eyes.
Tell her you want to be with her, you care for her, but trust is an issue and the fact that she never wants to discuss anything is a constant threat to your relationship.
There are too many women who would love to have a man who wants to actually TALK, if she doesn't want to take the relationship as seriously as you do--she doesn't deserve you. Though I know it would be hard on you, I think you would be fine.
2007-04-01 07:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by Smooch The Pooch 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok it's not good that you two are already having problems.Seems like she won't change.You may want to get out before you get hurt bad.
2007-04-01 07:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by bedofroses07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pretty much, i think the relationship has hit an iceberg!! after only 9 months you have THESE problems? wow! i say, maybe its best to call her and let her know its time to move on... then, get yourself together...
2007-04-01 07:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not good
2007-04-01 07:26:20 · answer #4 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋